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writes:it has taken me a long time to get over my ex. I have at times been very down and reached a point where i almost stopped going out. I just stayed at home ate and moped. A year later i have realized that i have become a mess. I have lost most if not all muscle and put on about 4 stone im trying to get my life back on track and started socializing again. I advertised for a lodger and have had an wonderful woman apply who is friendly and flirty we got on well (even have gone for lunch a few times to talk about her moving in) im worried now i know that she will be my Tennant but i would love to get to know her more she literally seems to be the perfect woman but im so out of shape im worried that will ruin any chances i could have. Any advice would be wonderful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou so much everyone. I will take your advice im starting to work out again and im going to take it slow, take my time to get to know her and see how it goes.
Thankyou once again. :-)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 Eat less, work out, and bear in mind that she liked you as you are today.
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reader, LovelyLemon  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 Everyone goes though hard times, and sometimes that means that we gain weight (sometimes we have such a nice time that we gain weight too!). Most people go through this sort of slump, and food is a very easy trap to fall into for comfort.
What you need to do, my dear, is show this woman that you are motivated, charming, and sweet as pie. Don't let your extra weight stifle your confidence. Maybe once you get to know her a little better and feel like opening up to her, tell her that you've made some poor health choices, but that now you're getting back on track.
All that weight and body image stuff aside, most women can see past some extra weight to the wonderful person inside it. The biggest (no pun intended) problem that overweight people have in the world of dating is being under-confident, or feeling that they do not deserve to be with that person because of their appearance.
Much love and Best wishes
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