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writes: i keep thinking about my ex and feel awful as i have a boyfriend that i am head over heals in love with. i have been with him for two years now and literally never even looked back, until recently when an up coming event will meen that we will meet again after almost 2 and a half years of not seeing him. i am having sleepless nights thinking about what will happen and to be honest until the other day i was rather looking forward to it but then found out he is hooking up with someone. Our relationship was long distance and he always told me how much he loved me and so on but i barely never saw him, so i left him, for months after he kept trying to talk to me claiming he only wanted friend ship.i recently messages him with some stupid excuse to talk to him, which i regret .i feel sick when i think about it and awful for my loving devoted boyfriend, help what should I do about the situation ? What even am i feeling ? And why now has he suddenly popped up ?? Sorry it's so long .
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reader, RevMick  +, writes (12 May 2014):
 Hi helpmoi,
I think everyone thinks of their ex from time to time. If only in passing. You were in a relationship with them so must have had feelings.
I would say sleepless nights and messaging him just to talk is a tad extreme.
Your current boyfriend will be thinking, 'wtf' to be honest as you are still thinking about this one who got away.
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reader, YoungButNotNaive  +, writes (12 May 2014):
 I think it's pretty clear the reason you're thinking about him is because you know you're going to see him soon.
I haven't seen my ex for nearly 5 years. I'm over him, and am happy with my husband, just as you are with your boyfriend. However, if I knew I was going somewhere and he was going to be there, I'd be quite uncomfortable. I'd probably lose sleep as well. It isn't because I still have feelings for him. It's because I'm perfectly content never seeing him again. It's a case of "if it ain't broke, don't fix it".
If you're so worried something is going to happen, then it might be a good idea to not go to this event. Otherwise, go and pretend he isn't there. If he says hello, you can say it back but keep moving. Don't get into a conversation with him. Just remind yourself why you ended things, and as you've been doing up until now, don't look back.
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