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writes:They say that being nice never gets you anywhere. In my past relationships I have always been the 'nice' person and never got the same in return, instead I got walked over. After a relationship ends, does the partner eventually regret leaving the person who gave them everything. Reply to this Question
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reader, igby  +, writes (20 July 2007):
 Its not a question of "nice", or not...its more about you being a open, warm, loving person and most guys can't handle that. In a way you probably keep fallibg for the same guys, that walk all over you, and can't completely accept your love. Its true something it takes loosing someone for one to really appericate what they had (this happened to me personally). But in the long run whether they do or don't regret leaving the person that gave them everything, its about you finding someone that gives you everything in return. Love is a two way street.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 July 2007):
 The posters have said it all. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. I think the underlying feeling here is, whether he might eventually come back to you; or, whether he will ever appreciate what he had. You know, your value as a person in love does not depend on whether someone notices or not. You gave your heart, he didn't notice or appreciate, that's his problem.
I agree with beckicita. Life has its funny ways. I have seen that happen.
In your future relationships, love this way, no matter what. We always worry about being loved, but never about whether we love. I think being able to love someone is more important than being loved. You have this virtue, and you should rejoice.
And then, I agree with eyeswideopen. Open your eyes wide the next time.
My heart is with you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 July 2007):
 Sorry that's Sometimes they DO and sometimes they don't
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 July 2007):
Sometimes they and sometimes they don't. At least you can say you gave the relationship your all. However, if you feel you were taken advantage of then I have to say that I believe that people ALLOW themselves to be taken for granted or advantage of. Perhaps a little self reflection is due here?
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reader, beckicita  +, writes (18 July 2007):
I too was in the same sitiuation. I think that perhaps at some point down the road they might realize how good you were to them, but most of these jerks that walk all over you are to selfish to notice and they dont want to either. I do think that life has it funny ways and that karma does exist so maybe one day when the role is reversed or when they are old miserable and alone they may think of that girl who really loved them with a heart of gold. Untill then F@%k'em!
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