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writes:Hi AllI am into a so-called "great relationship" for outsiders( friend who envy me) for the past 4 years. I am a bit manly in my thinking but a soft pity corner for him. I know at this point of life ,if i leave him i`ll be fine and maybe great. But i have never wanted to end the relationship. it seems impossible to get out of it.Promises and his feelings r my main concerns.He says if i leave him at any point in life, he`ll die. on other hand he says , " He can leave me for me"" He loves me passionately . But we r nt able to put upto each others expectations. I expect him to do all house chores with me when i am working equally at office and we`re earning the same. we had issues over finance too in the near past.I am afraid to hurt him. I often feel he needs me. Sometimes i adore him, but most of the times i get irritated and bored. I want to give it a try but every time i stand pleading to him not to get hurt bcoz of me! Everytime i find myself standing in front of him like i hv committed big mistakes and he should forgive me for all of them. He doesn`t give me space and if he gives ,he crries in front of me saying where should i go and cry.Please advise what to do.Thanks in advance for suggestions worth of it. Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 May 2008):
 There is no easy way to dump this guy. First, because dumping a person is never easy for the dumped, and, sometimes, for the dumpee, either. Second, because he seems to have become dependent on you.
All you can do is present him with the simple, hard facts. Tell him it's over, and that he shouldn't keep insisting.
I don't think any man prefers to be killed slowly, over one single movement of the blade.
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reader, growing +, writes (5 May 2008):
 i cud visualise yr life with him.gal,ask yrself do u realy want to be with him??is there any hope that he can meet yr expectations??and if he brings some changes in his behaviour,wud u still enjoy with him or have that rockin relationship as u said u feel bored and irritated??cos these answers r within u.and if u get "yes" to any of the question,then try talkng to him.i know u must have had huge talk sessions but try again and this time it shud be a sincere effort from yr side.take time out frm yr busy schedules for this and make sure to list all the hurdles coming in yr cud be passionate relationship.let him speak his mind too.so that everythng can be clear for once n for all.but yes ,this will only work if you two are good listeners too.one has to be patient when other speaks and shud nt intrupt in b/w as in that case ,u will end up with another big argument that will fetch you 2 sleepless nights.u sound sensible so i guess,i cud settle yr shaking mind.and if things r clear b'w u two and you have made up yr mind that he is the one for you then rediscover yr lovelife.get back where u two started,when everythng seems so rosy and lovely.
wish u luck
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