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writes: My ex-husband and I have been divorced 9 years and I have never stopped loving him.l Lst week he called me and said he wants me back and I am his soul mate. The problem is I've lived with a man for 7 years and is very good to me and I know he loves me. I just don't know what to do. I love the guy I'm with too but the whole time we have been together all I wanted was to get back with my ex. Now I don't know what to do. Help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): well if he dumped you then dnt get back with him you ave another man now and u r happy so leave him but if he is fit take him bck lol
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reader, Delirius +, writes (27 September 2005):
People can change so much in 9 years. Are you still the same now as you were when you were first married to your Ex? Chances are he isn't the same man now as the man he is in your memory. Why did you divorce? Go over the details in your mind of that time and be truly honest with yourself. Pick apart your previous marriage and identify the moments that you cherish the most and realistic decide whether those moments will re-occur. Next do the same with your current relationship. The man you are with who loves you now deserves as much thought and consideration as the man from your past. Find out if you can what has been going on lately with your Ex's life that has made him yearn for a previously better time, maybe one of his parents has passed and he is feeling lost, if so you must wait for him to finish grieving before considering reconciliation as he could just go his own way again down the track.
Finally, think about yourself. Do you want to dramatically change your current lifestyle? Are you willing to move to a new home or whatever environmental changes would occur?
This is not going to be an easy decision for you, but while you decide, keep in mind that the man you are with is who he is today, and the man of your past is now no longer the same man he was.
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