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*rzybeaut182
writes:I have been dating this guy for 3 months. He lives in NJ and I live in NY- we are about an hour and a half away from one another. Some background on us- we met 7 years ago on vacation and really hit it off. He had a girlfriend so nothing ever happened between us. We spent the entire week together and after the vacation we exchanged Facebook’s and numbers but never reached out to one another again. 7 years later he messaged me on Facebook asking if I remembered him. We got to talking, exchanged numbers and went out on a date. Everything was going amazing. I met his entire family and all of his friends. They all love me. He would text me every day almost all day long. Would tell me how much he missed me and couldn't wait to be with me, and we saw each other pretty much every weekend. Everything was amazing with us up until recently. I called him last Tuesday and I asked if everything was okay with us and he said 'everything is fine, I have just been busy and stressed and have no time for myself'. I haven’t heard from him since. Today I sent him a long message asking why I haven’t heard from him and got no response. What is going on with him? After 3 months of an amazing relationship why did he suddenly stop talking to me?? Need some advice
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reader, MSA +, writes (27 June 2014):
 I wouldn't worry too much. He did tell you that he's been busy and things have been stressful for him. Don't over think it and don't begin to doubt yourself, him, or your relationship. Give him some time, if he really cares, which I believe he does, he will contact you again.
If you'd like to give some support or encouragement, maybe consider sending ONE text per day.. either with a silly joke, quote, something about your day, or just words of encouragement to let him know you are there for him and are thinking of him. Do not expect a reply from him.. but of course if he does it'd be great.. but just don't expect a reply. I think he will appreciate the gesture.
Best of luck!
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reader, methuselah  +, writes (27 June 2014):
Hello,
My first thoughts here are that perhaps, he has been going through a previous relationship failure, separation, divorce and you were his rebound. The reason I say this is that a similar thing happened to me. I hooked up with a girl who lived 2 hours away, we went from emails to a full blown relationship within 2 weeks and then she just slipped away after 3 months. Just simply went distant on me and no longer replied. Perhaps this is what happened? Only my thoughts though. Sorry for your situation. Best wishes.
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