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writes: Hey,I truely appreciate the time that each have taken to read and advise me through this. this first paragraph is the background, so you can have some type of context. if you do not wish to read all, skip it..I have been dating my boyfreind for 10 montsh now. What i like about him is that we dont plan things, and we are not worried with the fact if we will end up marrying, or moving in, or whatever. we just take one step at a time. and I love that. Unfortunatley, we were assigned to different universities: I stayed in EUrope while he left to the states. However, before we left, he insisted that we shoudl do a LDR, despite him being completly gaianst it for the past previous months. I was excited but had the feeling he had not thought it through. WHen i aked him if he was ready and capable of mantaing one, he sai dhe was so sure about this, like he has never been before. A week has passed since we last saw each otehr, and through that whole week I kept worrying that someday he would think he does not really want this, or that he really never thought about it or how I was stupid to commit with him this big when he is so immature when it comes to c mitment. I am a devoted catholic, and very traditional in many ways. He is my first serious relationship. We have made love, and traveled together. I know its a lot for such a short time, but it fet right; as i said, makingthings happen when they come across.ok. that was the background. the problem occured yestrday, a week after we last saw eachother, he told me he was afraid that he was missing out on college stuff. I knew this thought would happen, but i did not expect it to come to hi smind so soon. he was very confused and that evenually confused me, cause I thought he was as detremined as I was in making this work. It was a horrible emotional night, but things got fixed today when he said that it was just a scare for both..But now, my detrmination to continue has been obscured with his last nigh doubts about the reationship and I dont know if I will continue viewing this relationship the same way as i did before.What should I do about this?
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reader, L*  +, writes (30 August 2009):
give it some more time and see what happens. if you feel that he 's unhappy in the situation talk to him and see if you'd be better off staying just friends.
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