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writes:hi, so i have a boyfriend. we lost our virginity to each other a while ago. i know we're young and it's illegal blah blah but we were ready.. we're in love and we have sex quite a lot.. well every time we spend the night with each other at least. and we use condoms. we're safe. but we want to use birth control. he wants me to get some so if we don't use a condom then we'll have a back up. i deffinetly don't want to get pregnant and he doesn't want to get me pregnant so we want to be safe. we've not used a condom before and it feels much better so we want to not use one but have me on birth control. but there's a problem.. my mom. how can i let her know that i want it? i mean she knows that we have sex because she's seen condom wrappers but i can't just be like can you get me birth control? i mean i'm sure she would so all i wuld have to do is ask but i'm scared to.. i mean i joke about sex and stuff with her but i'm scared to be serious and ask her.. she might think i was kidding also. so what should i do about this? and how effective is birth control? could i have sex without a condom if i was on the birth control and not get pregnant? please and thanks! xx
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reader, MommyOfOne +, writes (11 January 2009):
 At your age, I would go for a form of birth control that is hard to mess up. I wouldn't recommend the pill. There are far to many way things can go wrong with the pill. I wouldn't trust MYSELF with the pill... Try the depo shot. You get it every three months and its more effective than the pill anyway...
Be very careful with having unprotected sex. You don't know for sure where his little member has been. Why don't both of you get tested first and share the results with one another? Before doing that...
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reader, BRITTBABII2 +, writes (11 January 2009):
You should tell your mom. Say Mom I don't know if you know but me and my boyfriend have been going out for awhile and we are having sex. Tell her that you're being safe and he's using condoms but you want to be very sure and you would like to be put on birth control. She will take you serious because children are very expensive and birth control is cheaper than a kid! And it will also regulate your period which is also good. Birth control is supposedly 99.9% effective just like condoms but it will be even safer to use both if you don't want a kid but nothing is sure.
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (11 January 2009):
 hey, well i am 15 and pregnant, and let me tell you, its not something you want! i wasnt on the pill and my mom thought i was a virgin and look wat happend, i know sex without a condom is AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!! ha, but hey if your mom already knows u guys are doin it, then its a lot easier to ask for it then if she doesnt even knwo u have a bf! which is how my mom was.. haha.. but honestly you really should get on it, if anything else e-mail her, write her a note and leave it for her to find, text her, some how let her know... even if its not talking face to face... Birth control does help to prevent pregnancy, but not std's (i think) its not 100% effective tho, so be careful, even if you miss just one day, there is the chance of pregnancy or if you are using it wrong. you have to be careful sweetheart, also, even if you are taking it and you are doing it correctly, wat i was told (not sure if its true) but i was told it takes about 3 months to really start working. like just because you took one or 2 pills its not gunna really kick in until the 3rd month, now i dont know if its true, but thats wat i know about that stufff..... but really ask your mom, you should really be put on it!
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