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writes:I am a gay male and have just started seeing another guy. We are both in our early 20s. How long should we wait to have sex to increase chances of it lasting into something long term?I don't want to go into full blown sex straight away, but equally dont want to wait too long and give the impression I'm not interested. Reply to this Question
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reader, missmatador +, writes (25 June 2012):
 Dear Anon,I have heard of sex being the starting point, to sex being the last thing on your mind. And both of these have surmounted in mixed results in a relationship. From it going down in flames to it going from strength to strength.It's not about when or if the sex happens at all! You could have sex tonight if you wished to. But it wouldn't change the person you were having sex with or who they were going to turn into.Sex is not a key in a lock to solidify something. It is a doorway into a persons intimate portions of their personality: Another direction that the relationship can take!If you are ready to share that with someone then go ahead and open that door. If you want to learn more about them before revealing the most intimate parts of yourself then wait a while.Regards,Miss Matador.
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reader, SierraLake  +, writes (25 June 2012):
 You could wait until you guys say i love you and do other things to show your interest. Thats what i did with my boyfriend and it has lasted. Good luck with whatever you choose though!
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