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writes: My mom reprimanded me again over my addiction to soda which she sells.i steal and drink alot of soda about five in a day or minimum of two and my parents have caution and corrected me alot.i have tried to stop i had gone weeks and months but i bounce back. i started taking the sodas constantly when i was in my last year of middle school and now i am in my last year of highschool i have gained a lot of weight due to my addiction.i stole her money before but i don't steal anything now except the drinks. My mom told me today when she noticed the quantity decreased and she said when i go to university how would i buy the drinks since she wouldn't send a great amount of pocket money so i would be a prostitute.whenever money got lost i would always be held responsible and it not like i don't try to stop but if the drinks are selled when she was out she would say to me i took the drink after i defend myself i would feel the need to take the drinks as my revenge.i need advice on how to stop though the effects.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2022): I don't consider people that i am ackquainted as friends because i don't know what friend is even my so claimed bestfriend so friends out of the people i could talk to.
I don't talk to older people to so that is out again.
But thank you all for the advice
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reader, EmmyApple  +, writes (27 April 2022):
When I read your post it felt like I’m looking at my past self! I am a soda addict too. I got hooked when I was your age and, no surprise, that is when I first became overweight. I’ve been overweight my whole life since then. I have gained about 60kg since I was your age. I am much more sedentary now than I used to be, because I am just too big to be active - I can’t walk long distances or even stand for long periods of time like I used to. I get out of breath so easily and always need to sit down to rest my legs. There is nothing wrong with being a little overweight but you should try to make lifestyle changes now before you get too heavy because the more weight you gain the harder it is to get active again. I am blessed to be pretty healthy (just out of shape) but gaining 60kg changed my body a lot and put a lot of stress on my marriage. :(
I have tried and failed to stop binging sugar so many times. What I learned is that you need to change gradually. If you try to stop all soda drinking you might succeed for awhile but then you will snap and binge it again. Try gradually reducing your drinking instead. I used to have 6 bottles per day and now I have 4. It’s still a lot but that’s really good progress for me. Diet soda doesn’t satisfy my cravings. But you can try juice or sweet tea. It still has sugar but it’s healthier.
I agree with WiseOwl that prayer is important. Every week I watch church via livestream (I’m not a morning person so it’s hard to wake up in time to go in person lol) and pray for God to help me drink less soda and also to take away my extra weight. It helps a lot. I used to feel guilty every time I drank too much soda but I’ve learned that guilt doesn’t motivate you. You’re human and it’s totally natural to want lots of sugar it’s nothing to feel bad about!! I am sure God understands that. It’s better to be motivated by positive emotions than negative. :) Make SMALL gradual changes and you will feel more and more motivated once you start seeing results. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2022): I don't know your family's financial situation; so I can't just assume you can afford a therapist. You seem addicted to sugar, and your source is always staring you in the face, sitting right there on the shelf.
Even if you saw a therapist, you'll need to practice using your will power. Even people in rehab have to use will power to stay clean; because they crave drugs or alcohol all the time, and they have to fight that urge when it comes.
You have to do it gradually, and ease-up slowly. You should find something else as a substitute when you feel your urge coming on. If you have been feeding your habit each and everyday, it will be too hard to just stop; so you'll steal and do anything to satisfy it. If you can get your mother to buy you some "unsweetened" natural fruit juice, you can add some ice or water to it. Put it in a water bottle, and sip on it very slowly throughout the day. You have to fool your brain into thinking you've had soda.
Make sure you read the label on the juice, it should tell you if there is no added sugar or corn syrup. No sucrose or artificial sweeteners, just plain juice! You add the water, because it will give you a sense of fullness; and it will also dilute any small about of natural sugar from the fruit. Some juices contain pulp from the fruit, which has a natural sugar called fructose. It will satisfy your sugar-craving, but not in an unhealthy concentration that drives the addiction to sugar.
If your family worships and prays, you also have to ask God to help you to stop stealing and give you strength to give-up soda. Never steal for revenge. Your mother sells the sodas to put food on the table, and a roof over your head; so when you steal her wares off the shelf, you hurt your whole family. That's part of your family's income to put food on the table; so you are also taking revenge on yourself!
I will pray for you, sweetheart. It's tough being a kid and dealing with something like a sugar addiction. You should grab a fresh apple, an orange, a banana, grapes or some kind of fruit that tastes sweet; and you will find it will satisfy your sweet tooth, and soften your craving for the soda. Drink the watered-down juice or iced fruit juice slowly all day, keep it in the fridge to make it nice and cold; and it will remind you of soda, but it isn't!
Let us know how it turns-out, okay?
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reader, kenny  +, writes (26 April 2022):
 A lot of young people such as yourself become addicted to these sorts of drinks because of the high sugar content. Some of these energy drinks are the equivalent to around 8 cups of coffee which are dangerous as its speeds the heart rate up to an unhealthy rythym.
I think you need to seek professional help to get you off of this addiction, and also stealing is never a good path to go down. Seek advice from adults closest to you and i'm sure they will point you in the right direction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2022): My mom doesn't get the idea of a therapist because my sister has depression and was admitted in the hospital for one month and my mom criticize her telling her what is wrong with her? Shouldn't she be focusing on her upcoming examinations instead of staying in the hospital when nothing is wrong with her.My mom is religous and believe that prayer would help.My mom told me that i am killing myself and if i die it's on me because she noticed my breathing is heavy and i sweat alot which i don't feel.
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reader, QueenCupcake +, writes (24 April 2022):
 I understand that you’re addicted, and your mum may have suspicions, but it’s not equally right of her to assume that you would go into prostitution for the sake of fizzy drinks. Try carbonated water, you can add some water flavouring to it and it basically tastes like a soda. There are a lot out there that are low in sugar and fat, and carbonated water isn’t nearly as bad as sodas.
Ask your parents to keep the drinks somewhere where you don’t know so that you’re not tempted by them always being there. Also, bear in mind, like most addictions, you’re not going to be able to get rid of it straight away. Things like this are a gradual process. For instance, if you were having five drinks a day, try and reduce it to 4, and replace the fifth with some carbonated water with some flavouring.
Once you feel comfortable with that, reduce the drink down to 3, and have two carbonated waters. So on and so on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2022): Sounds like you have a very unhealthy addiction. Firstly you need to realise it is an addiction and own up to it. Then you need to seek support from the people around you - parents friends doctor etc. Then you need a lot of willpower and determination to get over this addiction. It could end up making you very unhealthy, obese, cause diabetes etc I'm sure you know. You should aim to cut down just a little bit each day. You could perhaps start by replacing some of the cans with fruit which also contains natural sugars to take off some of the shock of cutting back. You could ask your mum to lock the soda away somewhere you cant access it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2022): You need therapy. Pay a therapist. If you choose not to and carry on you will not only get fatter and fatter but end up with diabetes 2 and other nasty health problems that make you ill. Even if you drink the diet versions it still happens, it's the same with sugar or sugar substitute. The diet one is just less calories.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2022): You need help with this adduction. Sugar (that is what you are addicted to) is like cocain. Liquid sugar is especially dangerous because it is immediately digested. It hits you as soon as you drink it.
You act as a typical addict - you steal to support your addiction. So it is very serious.
Can you get some therapy? Ask a professional for help?
The fact that you have gained weight is not helping. It can make you more vulnerable and make you seek your drug of choice - soda.
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