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*lyboy123
writes:I am gay, had a boyfriend for 4 years - I went away for a year and when I got back things weren't the same at all - we had totally grown apart, so I ended it. It's now been 7 months and all I can do is think about him - I think about him each and every day. I know it was my fault for breaking up but I didn't think it would work and it was the best for both of us, but I can barely even function without him. He now has a new guy, although he's told me he's not happy.I wanna be able to get over him but I want him back at the same time. What on earth do I do? I've tried dating other people but it doesn't work and it ends up in tears.What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 I suspect, from what you wrote, that what you are "missing" is simply being in a relationship. You could try going out with him again, but the fantasy that you have is probably going to be different from the reality, which is why you broke up the last time. And you may have been disappointed with the guys you have been dating, but that's probably just because you haven't found the right guy yet.
What is worrying me the most about your letter is that you "can barely even function without him". That sounds suspiciously like a depression, and that might contribute to how you are feeling right now about everything else. Google symptoms and depression. If you find you have several symptoms, consider seeking a therapist to get to the bottom of it. XXX
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