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writes:As a child I was sexually abused. It started from the age of 12 I think and what happened to me as a child has most definitely affected me as an adult. I find it difficult to make friends and find it hard to talk to people. I don't really know if this is one of the side-effects of being sexually and emotionally abused as a child or if it's just part of who I am as an individual.. I lay back at night sometimes going over some of the things that have happened to me as a child and try to understand the reason for why he did what he did to me.. as a result I am suffering for the torment I've been through.. I need guidance on what to do to gain my confidence and to move on with my life.. Thank you for taking the time out to read this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): i'm so sorry. I too was abused & it took me 12 years to get over it. everyone's diff & I hope u cope better than me. the other poster is right IT's NOT YOUR FAULT, what was done to u was evil & horrible & that person should burn in hell (sorry but anger is part of the acceptance process). pl seek counselling & also seek help from family & friends. studies show that people who can rely on strong family or friends cope better. good luck & god bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): It sounds like you could benefit from some counselling - you can go and see your GP and ask to be referred to an NHS counsellor, or you can ask for a list of contacts for private counsellors in your area. I had counselling for some issues I had, and it did me so much good! It might help you to understand why you feel the way you do, and come up with some stratagies to help you to move on.
Good luck - I hope it works out for you.
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 You do need guidance, but not really from any of us. What you have been through has obviously traumatized you, and what you need is counselling and help from a trained professional. Most of us at DearCupid do not hold a psychology degree, but I'm sure we'll still tell your our thoughts on the matter. At least, I will.
You may never know a reason for why he did what he did to you. Everything you're describing is most definitely a side effect of abuse, yet another reason to get professional help. Please remember that it WAS NOT YOUR FAULT, and you should most definitely not be suffering for this terrible event.
I'm not sure if you're religious or not, but also try praying. If you find yourself unable to sleep, send up a prayer. Talk to God, He cares. Ask Him to help you move on from this, and to bring justice to your abuser.
I will most definitely be praying for you.
masq
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