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writes:i am in a tough situation, im a mother of twin boys they are 6 years old and the father was in the picture when they were younger then he disappeared because he got with another women. That kept him from seeing his kids but his mother always called me and kept in touch with me despite the fact that her son didn't. Then when my sons turned 2, he got locked up for 4 years. In the mean time i met somebody else but we have so much issues because he also has a baby mother cause he has a daughter. Now the issue with them is that she took his daughter away from him and the only contact he has with her is when she calls him and tell him hows his daughter doing. So when me and him started dating she was controlling him with the fact that she felt that she could tell him what to do because she has his daughter. For example like if me and him was hanging out she would call and expect him to answer, just because she was calling him. She also felt like she could have him back any time she felt like it and he was always telling me, "Grow up she the mother of my child i dont want to be with her". So now the tables has turned on him, cause to my surprise he came out of jail, he got a job and he contacted me, and now he wants to be in the picture. But now my boyfriend is saying he cant trust me because hes coming in the picture, i dont know what to do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (11 November 2010):
 Wow. Lots of drama. Lol. Maturity. He can't expect you to accept his ex calling all the time and what not and he can't do the same for you? Your kids' father hasn't seen them in how long? Maybe he really did change and wants to be a good father, your boyfriend has no say whatsoever in that matter.
Why was his daughter taken away from him?
Shouldn't the father of your children have a chance to have a connection with his boys? What's best for the kids? And what about you trusting him with her calling all of the time?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 November 2010):
 Your boyfriend can't deny the father of your sons being back in the picture..that's solely your decision, whatever he says is irrelevant. There's so many issues with you, your boyfriend, and his baby's mama, I can't help but feel you are all 3 in a relationship. He's not going to cut her out of his life, in fact he can't..Not to mention he's a hypocrite for saying he can't trust you when your babies's father is coming back into the picture. Let it go with this boyfriend, you have to face a bigger issue..such as letting your husband take part in the boys's lives after all these years.
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