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writes: I'm know for over analyzing and going through things and changing my mindset and either understanding things better or getting more confused. On thing that whenever I think about it leaves me both more confused and with clearer ideas is the whole "battle of the sexes" crap.Sure enoguh, there are two sexes, but we're all people, right? And why, oh why, do we (yes, I fall into the trap too) victimize each sex so much?I'll be fair and start with women. We're always complaining that men only want us for sex only, that men are perverted and oh poor us, we need to be a size zero with a D cup or we won't be desirable! Plus, we have to do their laundry, cook, raise their children and they can't even say thanks! Oh, the misery! Oh, men are pigs, men are jackasses, men are worthless creatures that just make being a woman such a hard thing to bear! Oh what did we do to deserve this? Why can't they accept that we like to talk, that we like to gossip, that we love our girlfreinds because they understand us better than anyone else? Why can't they get that if it takes us hours to get ready, it's only because we want to look good for them, that if we play "hard to get" is only because we respect them and ourselves and don't want them to think we're cheap and easy? We aren't cheaters, men are pigs!Then men... women are so self centered, oh, they're always expecting us to do all the hard work. We have to be the providers, we have to pay the bills, we have to buy the groceries... and on top of taht they want us to provide jewlery! They want us to be romantic all the time, but we get tired from making money to provide everything they need. And then they want us to stop looking at other women... we have eyes, we look, but we won't cheat! We only have one heart, and that hear belongs to the one woman we love. We aren't cheaters, weomen cheat twice as much as men! Then on dates we have to do so much crap like paying for dinner, complimenting her in just the right times, etc, only to maybe get a good night kiss! It's a freaking strategy game!...And so it goes... surely, there are heck a lot of cliches above. But have you realized that there are men and women that spend their lives complaining about the opposite sex? That they think all their misery is practically the other's fault? This people sometimes make me wanna say "Then go off relationships, become asexual, and live well!"To all of these people, I say: The men you think are "pigs", are the ones who hug you and listen to all your problems, protect you and to a lot of you ladies... is the only one able to give you HALF the chromosomes for your baby... and if you have a baby boy, this cute little son of yours may very well grow up to be one of these "pigs" you complain about. Do you really want to insult your kid like this, or, do you want him to grow up hearing all this to feel like being a man is not a good thing? Or if you have a daughter, do you really want her to resent men and be bitter?The women you think are nagging witches are also the mother of your children. It applies here aswell. Also, think about how the warmth of her skin makes you feel loved every night. We need to realize that we have our differences, that those differences make us special to one another, and that it's because of this that we have to celebrate them. Let's focus on the positive rather thanthe negative, and surely you'll have more fulfilling relationships.
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reader, michelleAKAmandi  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 The below was a joke, I hope men don't take offense to it. I'm fortunate in not having suffered from any of the list with the exception of the 2nd.
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A great solution to most of what you said is: For men and women to learn how to AGREE TO DISAGREE. It really makes things easier and people happier.
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (5 September 2008):
Ok... this may get some people in a rant, but I must!DoubleM is so right in the fact that MAN exist in both man and woman ALSO... you ever paid attention to the fact that so many of our complaints/problems/issues have MEN in them?MENopauseMENstrual CycleMENtal Anxiety MENtal BreakdownMENtal IllnessI meant no ugliness by posting that, your question merely brought that to mind.A great solution to most of what you said is: For men and women to learn how to AGREE TO DISAGREE. It really makes things easier and people happier.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (19 August 2008):
 Yeah well, there are a boatload of men and women who accept the selfishness, shortcomings, frailties and inadequacies in each other and still love each other. We fulfill the needs of each other, despite lingering complaints, and somehow end up relatively happy, create offspring and make a family that carries on humanity. Remember that the letters "M.A.N" exist in both man and woman. In many ways, we are not that different in many respects.
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