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writes:A question for anyone who's been cheated on...Would you say that when you found out this person cheated on you that you were shocked and surprised? That you didn't think the person you were with could be capable of it? That you thought that person was a good honest person at heart and would not be able to do such a thing?Sorry if this is a painful question, but thank you so much for your responses. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): I was with someone for ten years. She was always the sweet caring loving person. Then there came a time when I really needed her, bad head injury. This is when I found out that she had been cheating on me for almost a year with several people. She denied everything and still does. The problem is that I found the pictures, the e-mails, and this all proved her lies. How did I find out? My PC kept getting trojan virus's and traced the infection back to files that were uploaded to a social networking site with the pictures and e-mails. Sad part, the last guy that she cheated on me with and had a hot/heavy relationship beat her one night while drunk and on probation. I thought people cheated up so to speak going for better. I am hurt, but realize there is someone else very special out there waiting for me. Good luck and God Bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2011): of course, sweetie. if i would have known he was a cheater i would have never gone near him! people lie and deceive you. but remember this saying "shame on you if you fool me once, shame on me if you fool me twice". if you want to stay with him/her and give them another chance then you are in for some heartbreak. we warned you!
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reader, 2much4me +, writes (17 July 2011):
To tell you the truth I always heard that my boyfriend of 11years had cheated on me several times but never questioned anyone. I finally questioned him after an argument and he did tell me that he had cheated on me but only once. I knew he was lying again because I have heard from different people what he had done. But when he told me I wasn’t surprised but yes shock. I didn’t even know what to say at that moment. I think most of us women do tend to have that thought in our head that every man will be unfaithful to us and I have to say I haven’t dated any guy that has ever been faithful to me. I choose to continue my relationship with my boyfriend even though he has cheated and I know of all his lies because I have to say being a mother of 4 makes it really hard to just up and go. We have been trying to work it out but it’s been a very hard road for me to trust him and believe him every time he says something to me. Well best of luck to you and if you don’t have kids and he has cheated then you definitely need to leave him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011): I think it's always a shock even if you knew in your heart of hearts this might be happening, and knew that something was wrong.
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reader, Amourrouge +, writes (16 July 2011):
Yes, I think a lot of us feel that way. Sometimes even if we have doubts and are kind of expecting them to do something wrong, we are still shocked to know they have hurt us so badly. After didn't they said they loved us and we believed them.
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reader, lm9hi  +, writes (16 July 2011):
 I know this is kinda different, but I once cheated on my partner, I am very much in love with him, hes the love of my life. It was after a night out, one to many drinks and well ... I felt so terrible I had to tell him, I think I was hurting more than him because the thought that I have caused him pain and heartache kills me. All the things you said about how you thought they would never do that, he said them to me, he did'nt think I was capable of doing that, its now 10 month later and were still together, I know his trust for me may not be 100% back, but were working through it and I can honestly say I would never ever do that to him again.
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