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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello,My bf and I have been dating for over a year. We love and care about eachother. We enjoy spending time together. We like to make out and kiss. We are both virgins. We have been talking about sex. I think we will end up doing it. We have both spoken of an interest in sex together. I have a few questions for you.1. I hear a lot about the negative side of sex and bad things that could happen from having sex. What are some of the benefits of having sex? What are some of the positive outcomes that would/could result in having sex with my bf?2. What things do you think I may enjoy that are a common part of sex? What aspects of the sexual experience do you think may bring me pleasure and be satisfying? 3. My bf and I have not seen eachother naked. How can I know that he finds me attractive without clothes? Is there a way of knowing before getting nude? Could I give him a photo of me in the nude and see what he says?4. When we undress for the first time can it be fun and playful? Can you suggest an order in which to remove my clothes? Can you suggest a way in which to help remove his clothes? Can you suggest an order in which to help remove his clothes? Thank you for answering my questions. Regards,Liz
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reader, mandabaaby  +, writes (7 February 2008):
 Wowww Girl, sex isn't to be planned like a birthday party or to be scared about like its a life or death situation. If your scared what he will think of you when your nude, maybe take it slow maybe show him your bra and underwear.. take it slow.. and if you want to make it playful when taking of clothing.. Maybe turn on some music dim the lights and dance a little bit... After that make him do the same so you can both have a little giggle and make yourselves comfortable with eachother :) I did that with my bf and it was perfect sex was romantic, after sex we are closer then ever. Girl, after sex with you and your bf, you will notice how much it will make your relationship better.
Dont be silly, wrap the willy.
Have fun!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): WOAH chill out!
this isnt an organised dinner party!
part of the fun is NOT knowing what to do or whats going to happen
dont plan and organise it
just go with the flow!!
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (13 December 2007):
LOL Girl are you nervous.Why don't you go in stages.Try giving him head for starters or you could do a handjob,more like musturbate him using your hand.He could also use his fingers to pleasure you.When you are more coomfortable with each other you can now engage in full penetration.Really there's no order in removing your clothes,it's just how you feel like but it's usually more romantic if you both undress each other at the same time.There are so many reasons that make me agree that rushing into sex's bad and if i start mentioning,i may take the whole day.For things that may pleasure,you'll have to learn the two of you.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): It seems to me that you're overthinking this a little. You can be as "playful" as you want at the time as long as you both have made up your mind to do this and have given serious thought to the consequences beforehand.
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