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writes:where to start well im 17 years old i go to college studying business and have been with my boyfriend nearly 6 months... anyway last week i found i am 3 and half months pregnant.. i have spoke about it to my boyfriend and his family and i have decided to keep my likee monkey :)anyways my big problem is that my parents are really striked and i have given little hints to them and they have said if i were to get rid of it etc.. but i really dont want to i want to keep it but i want them to be happy about it and i dont want them to be disappointed in me but i know they will.. my brothers will hate me too and what makes it worse the fact that everyone thinks i have not had sex with my boyfriend so its a bit of a pickle... please help me :(VictoriaaaXP.Smy boyfriend is 21 years old. Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Your 17.. you are legally able to have sex at 16, and are able to work and earn a living.. that makes you a young adult..
Yes they'll be disappointed with you, all parents expect their children to be rich and famous, they expect them to be the next prime minister..
This disappointment last about 2 seconds before they realise how fun a young baby will be, and how much cute stuff they can buy for it..
They shout and cry for a couple of days.. your belly gets bigger, as big as the smile on your face.. before you know it, they are smiling too, and they start talking about how their grandchild will be the best prime minster the UK has ever had...
Get ready, the baby means that you will be unimportant, you failed, but they will just transfer all their dreams and hopes onto any kid you have, and then they'll be happy again...
How do you tell them.. "Mum, dad, we are gonna have a baby, now aint that gonna be fun"
Or, if you want to do it more formal, please take a look at this website.. http://www.momdadimpregnant.com/
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 A good way to let my parents know I am pregnant?
"Mom, Dad, I am three and a half months pregnant and I am keeping the baby."
These are the consequences of having a child when you aren't old enough to support it and haven't finished your education.
I wish you and the baby all the best...and your parents are now Granparents and most likely will be parenting their own grandchild.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): kc100
I think this illusion you have about living off benefits its awful and sterotypica. Not every teenage mother leaves off benefits there whole life.
My mum had me and my sister by the age of 19 and has never received benefits. She worked in a shop when we were younger and later got a degree and trained as a councellor. My sister and I are now both law students in second year so my get your facts straight before youpaint everyone with the same brush!
Louise
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Well there is not a lot you can do apart from prepare yourself for their reaction - you have to tell them one way or another so it is best just to get on with it. They cant force you to have an abortion so just be honest with them and tell them you and your boyfriend have decided to keep it and that is your final decision.
Yes they are going to be disappointed, their teenage daughter has thrown away her life and her education and will spend the rest of her life probably living off benefits and will just turn into one of the many teen mums living in the UK. No parent wants that for their child, your parents have every right to be upset and disappointed. They are never going to be happy about this, so dont build yourself up with hopes that they are going to be overjoyed and wrap their arms around you and take you out shopping to buy baby clothes.
Just be honest and upfront with them, dont hide it for any longer as you will just make the situation worse. You chose to have unprotected sex therefore you now have to deal with the consequences.
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