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writes:A Day in the Mind of an Attention AddictIt's morning, and time to put on my make up, fix my hair, and wear a new outfit. I'm thinking about the female friend I'll see today who'll comment on how nice it is and I feel an adrenaline rush, Now I'm thinking about how many guys will look at my top and how it clings to me and that adrenaline rush comes again. Now I'm leaving home, I fill up at the gas pump and the gas station guy leans in just a little too close to me when he gives me change, another adrenaline rush. It's evening and the new guy I'm dating takes me out to dinner, and I notice guys staring at me as I walk to the table...another adrenaline rush, later that night my boyfriend tells me how I turn him on...what a high...better than any drug... oh wait, I forgot to mention walking by that shoe store and imagining buying those sexy shoes that will make me look so hot in my jeans...mental note to self, buy shoes when get next paycheck...another druglike high. Now back to my boyfriend and sex...another drug like high. Being desired and noticed and wanted, it feels sooo good. So why do I feel so empty inside when I don't get noticed? Why do I never have a long term relationship? Why isn't the high from all this attention enough? Why can't I find love? Reply to this Article
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 I suspect you rather answer your own question...why is a drug addict addicted to drugs? It's the high, the rush...i'm not a great one for chemistry but we already know that things like sex induce positive chemical responses from the brain so I would imagine the same was true of garnering positive attention and there are few more potent forms of positive attention than sexual attention....
So, there are two possible reasons why you feel empty without the attention; the most lateral one is that there is a chemical imbalance in your brain and when you get the high it addresses that imbalance, the other is more enviromental in that you were deprived of it when you were young and thus crave it now....
Obviously all this is going to affect your ability to sustain a long term relationship because it's virtually impossible for somebody to maintain that level of attention over a long period of time; thus when the honeymoon phase ends you get bored and go off in search of the next high....
Having said that I am with the first poster....affection lasts longer than attention and is therefore a much more worthwhile thing to pursue. Good luck :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 September 2008):
 Interesting article, star, but I'm waiting for the answer! What DOES an attention addict do to deal with that empty feeling, that void that shoes and admiration just don't seem to fill?
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (10 September 2008):
 Hey there...I can't put it into words of why you feel empty, but I can tell you that mere attention alone from passers will make you feel empty. What's in it? Nothing other than looks, smiles, flirts etc... but nothing emotional, the absence of the touch, the absence of love.Do you think it may be because you thrive on attention too much? That is a turn off for some men, I can't speak for all of them, but I know of some and some women as well.There is a difference in confidence and conceit. A confident woman is so very sexy, however; a conceited woman is very much the opposite. You seem to be, in your post/article a bit conceited and that may be the problem. If you get all of this attention, then obviously you are a nice looking person that wouldn't have a problem with having the choice of a date with many different men. So with that you would find one man that could possibly be "the one" and fall in love.Another point of view: After a while in a relationship the compliments aren't as plentiful, the looks are not there as often.... do you get to a point that you have to have that attention constantly and that's when trouble starts and the relationship ends?Your issue may lay merely in the fact that you crave constant attention and "you" may be the problem. So with that, you have to correct the problem in order to find happiness, love and fulfillment... not attention.I hope this may help sort out some thoughts and help you find the reason.Keep me posted if you don't mind and good luck.MichellePS - I love attention as well, but I find the satisfaction of having someone to hold me and love me complete fulfillment which you will not get with mere attention.
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