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writes:Hey Aunts, I'd like to give you a little back-story about my relationship. We have been going out for nearly 3 years now (it'll be 3 in June). This past year we went off for our freshman year of college, both in the same school (because of the engineering program it offers and not because of the high school lovers) and we were both in engineering so we lived in the same building and hung out with each other every day. Well, recently she has grown extremely distant. She hardly kisses me and only does a peck on the cheek when I want to kiss her goodnight, and she no longer wants to cuddle during movies. We have had a couple of arguments about this recently and she has said that it feels awkward for her to do anything that a couple would normally do. She doesn't know if it is just me that it feels awkward for or if it would feel awkward for her to do those things with any other guy if she were to try. At times she has described it as if she were kissing a brother rather than a lover. Is this a common issue among couples? Is it because we have spent such a long time together? Either way does anybody have advice for my situation? I would love to be able to wrap my arms around her while we watched a movie or to just kiss her as a reminder that I love her. Well anyways, thank you for your time and thanks for any future responses if you guys have suggestions.Note: we have had a lot of sexual activity but not sex during our 3 year span. That calmed down a lot when we got to college because we had a lot of other things to do and it only happened when roommates were away. The last time we did anything like that was about a month before she stopped kissing and cuddling. I just thought that this might be worth noting.
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reader, Tenderlovingcare  +, writes (7 May 2013):
 Hmm, I'm not too sure about this one, but I think you should look at this more closely. If she said it feels like she's kissing a brother and she feels awkward doing it around you. Then I think she probably just wants to be friends but doesn't know it yet. She loves you but as a friend (it seems). It really depends on what she was like before? Is it only recently that she's found it awkward?
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