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writes:okay. so here latley i found out that somebody im really close to is doing drugs. and i dont no what to do. cause i hate it and i want to tell them how i feel but im scared to cause i dont no what there reaction is going to be. should i tell them. or what should i do cause im starting to get really depressed over this.
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reader, B-NaneR  +, writes (23 June 2008):
 If it is soft stuff then I guess that there is nothing too much to worry about and it is his decision to do so, that stuff still is not the best for you but it really doesnt damage the body like hard stuff, but it does sometimes lead to the the harder stuff.Now, if it is hard stuff like Meth, Heroin, Crack and so on, then you should worry about it a lot more. I recomend listening to "Uncle Sneaker", he gives good advice. Just tell him how you feel about it. I have had too many friends going down the drug train it is unbelievabe. Even seeing one O.D, its not fun. I even almost lost my closest friends, he was like a brother and I still havent talked to him for about 5 years. But after a wihle from friends and family reaching out to him and helping him, what I have heard is that he is clean after about 6 years of using meth.Dont be forceful, it never works to do that, and like what Uncle Sneaker said, maybe all he needs is to hear from a caring friend.hope things work out
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reader, B-NaneR +, writes (23 June 2008):
If it is hard drugs, tell him how you feel about it, tell him that you are worried about him and that your scared of loosing a friend. I know how it feels, many of my friends were hooked on the hard stuff, I havent talked to one of my closest friends who was like a brother to me for about 5-6 years now. He was homeless and I thought he was going to die once, now from people constantly getting him to seek help he is i believe clean. Another has been clean for about 3 years now but has a weak heart and many other isses. I can go on for a long time, it is not fun to see a close friend put themselves through such a thing. So what I am saying is try and get him off as soon as posable, try not to force it though just let him know how you feel.If it is something soft like pot then I guess thats his desision to do it and you shouldnt worry much. Just hope it wont lead to the hard stuff.Good luck, hope things work out
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reader, logicdebates +, writes (22 June 2008):
If it's hard drugs, show him the facts how harmful it is. If it's soft drugs, that is his choice, just tell him to keep his drugs to himself and away from you.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (22 June 2008):
 How close? And what sort of drugs?
These sort of things are very much a question of "degree". I assume you mean illegal drugs, but even so there is a world of difference between, for example, smoking the occasional joint of cannabis and injecting heroine. I DON'T condone either end of the scale, because both are lawbreaking activities and one can (sometimes) lead to the other, but the seriousness of the two situations is very far apart.
If it's someone you are very close to, and it's worrying you, then you should definitely mention it. You should explain that it is making you feel depressed because you are worried. You can ask why - that's good, because it makes them put into words why they do it. You don't have to "have a go" or tell them it's wrong, dangerous, illegal. You might have to do that later but not now, not at first. All you need to do to start with is to make them aware how unhappy it makes YOU - and if it's someone who cares for you then that might be all that's needed.
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