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writes:Hello.How do I say goodbye to a BEAUTIFUL girl? She has everything going for her but I am not ready for relationship with her. I want a no strings relationship and I am getting that with this other girl right now. My friend told me she is hurt that I feel this way because she care for me more than a friend. I told her she is beautiful and sweet and that any guy would be lucky to have her but she thinks I am doing it to make her feel better. She said she has to move on. It has been three weeks and I have not heard from her. What do I do? I used to see her everyday and miss her. But I am so confused by what I want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2012): Sounds like you care for this girl but you are afraid of committing to her. Did somebody break your heart so badly that you are afraid of a meaningful long term relationship?Wanna fling your way through life? Gets pretty lonely. Been there. Done that.If you really do care and are ready to be a man, call her and tell her how you feel.Do this now before it is too late and some other guy snaps her up. Because if what you are saying about her having a lot going for her on top of being beautiful? Man, it's a no brainer and you are one fool to pass her up.Guaranteed some other guy is going to be smart enough to see what kind of catch she really is.Women like that won't last long on the market.You snooze you lose. Do you really want to be in that boat?
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reader, jr23 +, writes (25 April 2012):
 What exactly did you expect her to do? If I were her, I would have done the same thing. She was looking for a relationship with you, and you turned her down. It's common sense that she will move on to someone who wants to be with her.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (25 April 2012):
 Are you truly confused by what you want? You did after all say the following: "She has everything going for her but I am not ready for relationship with her. I want a no strings relationship and I am getting that with this other girl right now." From what you write, it seems pretty clear that you do not want to be in a relationship with her. You knew she liked you. And while she was pining for you, you did not want to make her your gf. Now that she is gone, you're confused? Are you sure you don't just miss the ego boost, knowing that a beautiful woman is interested in you? Do you miss the attention and feeling flattered and liked? You haven't said anything about: I want to be with her, I want to date her exclusively, I like her as much as she likes me, ect. And this is why I think you're just missing the ego stroking.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (24 April 2012):
 You can't give her the relationship she wants, so leave her alone. It would be selfish of you to expect her to hang around and wait for you.
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