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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for around 8 years and have a 6 year old daughter together, and we live together. The problem is, that this man often goes off on drinking binges and ends up sleeping at other people's houses. He smokes cannabis and disappears for hours on end in order to 'pick up'. He holds down a steady job and helps support us (I pay my own way), But I don't know what else he gets up to when I'm not there. His drinking often ends up in him going to Clubs which are well known for being 'meat markets', and his excuses about staying at friend's are wearing thin. Recently I found him looking on a web site for women in our local area who want to meet just for sex.I have a lot of love and commitment for this man, and he can be either very supportive or very mean towards me. I don't know what the next step in my life should be. Help please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): If i were u i will tell him if he does that one more time just dumb him and get on with your life.
After u dumb him move back with your mom or dad and make sure u take your daughter with you.
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reader, confuused.to.hell +, writes (20 September 2006):
if i was u id try to sit him down and talk about it ask him why he dont come home
he could have a gd reason but tell him u dont want to be sitting and waiting for him all hours of the day and night
tell him you dont want ur children to see this and ask him why he was looking at the site where u can meet for sex
try to find out whats going on in his head all u need to do is find out why then u might see what is going on or try to ask his friends what he does as he might have other problems
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reader, Tine  +, writes (20 September 2006):
 if you love him there is nothing you can do about it but think of it like this, do you wanna go on like this for the rest of your life?? With him going out all weekend and not coming home just shows how much respect he has for you.
How would he like to sit in the house all weekend with your daughter while you go out and party?? The truth is that you wouldnt even put him in the position that he puts you in because you love him so much.
This man is a waster, if he has a job so what! The facts are that he would rather go on benders all weekend leaving you and your daughter at home to worry about you and this is no life to be leading. Another thing what kind of example is he setting for his daughter? That it's ok to go out and do the things he's doing? You dont even know hwta he is gettin gup to while he's out and being honest i wouldnt wanna know.
So put a stop to it right now while you can, put your foot down and start standing up to him. Tell him either he start acting like a father and a partner or he should find somewhere else to stay. This selfish behaviour is only there because you are letting him away with too much, and he takes you for granted. If you are commiting yourself to him then why isnt he doing the same to you? As fo rlooking for other women on the internet to meet up just for sex, how exactly do you feel about it? have you confronted him about this? I hate to break it to you but this could be why he isn't coming home at the weekends so as i say stop it now before it gets too deep that you can't do anything!
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