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writes:I have been in a relationship for 5 years. And I admit that i'm a good and committed lover. In-fact, this is my first relationship. Well Everything's going well. The honey moon period is over, we had our good and bad times together as a couple. It was a challenging one.Recently, a new person came into my life. At first we were friends, we became best friends. So much heart to heart conversations. everything thing we talked about was clean. Slowly people around us started noticing the similarities we had and so much other spiritually cosmic weird feelings we both shared that cannot be explained, after so much research done. We figured out that we were soulmates. Literally soulmates. Not those tumblr quotes or just saying for the sake of being so close to another person. We were really soulmates. We got so close together, fought through so much insecurities among st ourselves, and came to a conclusion about our true feelings towards each other as man and woman. I feel so depressed. I feel like i am cheating on my girlfriend. But the thing is, i love my girlfriend just the same way, and i will never leave my girlfriend for this new person that entered in my life. Even this new girl thinks the same way. That i'll be an asshole for leaving my girlfriend. and it will be the same for her, she will be a bitch if she wanted me to leave my girlfriend. She's actually proud of me, that i told her I still love my girlfriend even though this soulmateship is going on. I am sharing it here because i am emotionally disoriented. I think i need help. I just hope someone is going through the same thing and can tell me that i am not alone in this. I hate myself for worrying about love, when countries that are so poor are worrying about food. I have broken my principals as a man. But things just happened so naturally. a new girl came in, we never flirt before. things just got out of control, we tried drawing her our lines but didnt work out.Someone please help . thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2013):
You CAN'T continue to emotionally stray from your girlfriend by keeping in contact with your new-found soulmate...
Unless... unless you don't care about your girlfriend at all?
Which is it? -you can't pretend you still care about your girlfriend if you'd let her be emotionally compromised by letting this hardship continue with no change; just because you're burying your head in the sand.
'Deny everything' is not a solution; it's hurting everyone, including yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, i have made up my mind to stay as where i am now till the fire burns out, then i'll sort my mind out.
At this point of time, everything is far too painful.
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reader, kissdesign  +, writes (20 May 2013):
Hi, I myself found my soulmate but I chose my boyfriend and were married niw and I can tell ive made the right choice. As they say "not all soulmates are meant to be together." Just my opinion from my experience. Choose that person whom you imagined cant live without.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2013): Interesting re Zippy's point that in your list of given choices, you have to change 'something' -or rather lose someone, because it’s not working at the moment. And frankly, it will only get harder for you if this continues, as well as increasingly unfair on both girls if you continue being so close to both whilst harbouring these conflicting feelings.I wonder if knowing that you have to do 'something' will help you to decide what’s best. Because whilst it’s sometimes very hard to choose between two seemingly 'good' options, sometimes your gut will more easily tell you what you feel that you CAN'T part with?i.e.Could you face cutting all contact with this new girl?Could you face breaking up with your girlfriend?Play through each scenario in your head, but accept that you have to choose to part ways with at least one or the other girls if you care and respect either of them. It may not have been intentional that this happened, but you cannot fairly let this 'three's a crowd' scenario continue indefinitely.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (19 May 2013):
Thanks so much for your follow-up it was much appreciated.I hope things work out for you .Kinds Wishes for the future may you make a Wise choice. Nora B.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (19 May 2013):
Thanks so much for your follow-up it was much appreciated.I hope things work out for you .Kinds Wishes for the future may you make a Wise choice. Nora B.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all i love the comments. it was really heart warming. 3
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reader, NORA B +, writes (18 May 2013):
First of all You are a honest,decent man and have nothing to worry about on that level.There is no harm in being TEMPTED ITS ONLY WHEN YOU ACT ON IT.Your soulmate also is a very nice person. However this is a real Test for you how committed you are to your g/f of 5 years and only you can answer that so think long and hard about that.Put time and space between your soulmate and you and think more of your relationship.After all time and space makes no difference to soulmates.Do not make any rash decisions.Best Luck Nora B.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (18 May 2013):
First of all You are a honest,decent man and have nothing to worry about on that level.There is no harm in being TEMPTED ITS ONLY WHEN YOU ACT ON IT.Your soulmate also is a very nice person. However this is a real Test for you how committed you are to your g/f of 5 years and only you can answer that so think long and hard about that.Put time and space between your soulmate and you and think more of your relationship.After all time and space makes no difference to soulmates.Do not make any rash decisions.Best Luck Nora B.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (18 May 2013):
First of all You are a honest,decent man and have nothing to worry about on that level.There is no harm in being TEMPTED ITS ONLY WHEN YOU ACT ON IT.Your soulmate also is a very nice person. However this is a real Test for you how committed you are to your g/f of 5 years and only you can answer that so think long and hard about that.Put time and space between your soulmate and you and think more of your relationship.After all time and space makes no difference to soulmates.Do not make any rash decisions.Best Luck Nora B.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (18 May 2013):
First of all You are a honest,decent man and have nothing to worry about on that level.There is no harm in being TEMPTED ITS ONLY WHEN YOU ACT ON IT.Your soulmate also is a very nice person. However this is a real Test for you how committed you are to your g/f of 5 years and only you can answer that so think long and hard about that.Put time and space between your soulmate and you and think more of your relationship.After all time and space makes no difference to soulmates.Do not make any rash decisions.Best Luck Nora B.
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