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36-40,
anonymous
writes:every week i go to the pub with friends from work at my new job. i've started to get on really well with one of their flatmates and i really like him (im 20, hes 26). After the pub we always go back to someones house and this guy i like cuddles me and strokes my arm or hand and things. this has been happening for about 3 weeks. well last night they had a party and me and the guy ended up kissing upstairs. i got distracted by a friend who was too drunk so i had to help her downstairs and i was about to go back up to him but his ex girlfriend started talking to me saying things like she was finding it hard watching me and him cuddling and things so i felt really awkward so decided to back off of him for a bit. about 5 minutes later she went upstairs to him and they spent the rest of the night in his room. it really upset me because i really like him, like everytime he touched me i got butterflies and now i feel like an idiot as its obvious he only kissed me because he was drunk but me being stupid i thought it was because he like me. and because i was upset and had had a bit to drink i ended up going back to someones house and having my first one-night stand which is completely unlike me and now i feel really ashamed of myself. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): I'm sorry to say you shoud forget about it all, a kiss is just a kiss nothing else this case, he flirted with u but jumped on his ex on the first opportunity, I think u deserve to be the forst on the relationship not just option b or c on his priorities
c'on there are other blokes around
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (13 August 2007):
 Blah don't feel guilty...what happened...happened and you can't change it, but you can LEARN from it.
Forget the guy, if he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you and make you know that he wants you. By spending the night with his ex after kissing you, he is showing no respect. Some guys just like to flirt, stroking you and cuddling up with you, they enjoy the contact, but they will only go after a serious relationship if its what they truly want.
Date other people, who are exclusive to you, try not to have casual sex, keep things light until you meet someone who you really like and who makes an absolute beeline for you.
Don't let people treat you badly, have respect for yourself and hold out for a good guy.
Good Luck
Aunty Em xxx
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