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writes:There's a girl I work with, whom I get along with pretty well. She knows I really have a thing for her, but she's older than me. The other day I went to get coffee but she didn't have any money on her, so I bought her one. She said she'd pay me back but I told her not to worry about it. Then, the next time I came into work she gave me five dollars and thanked me again for the coffee. Five dollars? For a two dollar coffee? At first I said I didn't want the money, but she politely insisted "No, take it, you don't have to pay for my coffee." I'm confused, what does this mean? Is it a sign of attraction, or the complete opposite? Or just nothing at all? She knows I like her and we always converse and get along. Confused!
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reader, Hard_decision  +, writes (9 April 2010):
sometimes people like to pay back with more then what it actually cost... Say the coffee cost $2.65, no one would ever give you the EXACT change back unless they were a tight arse. I do it all the time, if someone pays for lunch for me because its cash only and i only have my card on me, ill go to the atm and give them back $40 instead of the $34 the lunch actually costs. She just sounds like a generous person. Like the others have suggested, ask her out for coffee again or lunch, atleast that way you'll get more one on one time with her and see if you can pick up any stronger signals.
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reader, Pinkflowers  +, writes (8 April 2010):
Was she giving you the five dollars to pay for the coffee you had as well? Or she might be paying you back with interest, I mean like the bank does.
I'd say to her you really enjoyed going for coffee with her and ask her if she would like to do it again sometime. I am a believer in you can love anyone no matter of age, race, gender ect...So the fact she is older then you shouldn't be a problem in my mind, don't let anyone tell you it's wrong. So long as you are both legal age it's all good.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 I would think that she appreciated your gesture so much that she was eager to pay you back and more. Maybe she's hoping you will invite her out for another coffee. Why don't you try asking her out then you will know one way or the other.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (8 April 2010):
 I'd say nothing at all. I didn't get any special signs from something like that. I'd guess if she was interested instead of paying you'd back she'd say "Let me buy you a cup of coffee sometime..." or something like that.
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reader, hpoco  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 Its a three dollar difference, I wouldn't read to much into it. She was probably just being nice because you bought her coffee/she didn't have singles, something like that.
Maybe you could offer to take her to lunch/dinner with the three dollars left over, if you like her? It might be a cute way to ask her out. Good luck!
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