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writes:Hi there. I’m 32 and still trying to get the hang of this dating thing before I lose the will to live. Im really trying to put pressure on myself to find a girlfriend as the gaps between partners in my life has been just too big meaning I’ve had little experience with women: 3 yr relationship when I was 23 at university, 3 mth relationship at 25 and another 4 mth relationship at 29. that’s it! How sad and weird is that! The idea of dating seems to be an impossible challenge for me and is really taking over my life right now as I see it as a priority to nail this down. Im even considering counselling to get over the misery of it!As most of my friends are not good with women either and never get introduced to women via them I see online dating as my only method of finding someone despite my lack of success on there. I've had lots of failed dates and been on there on and off for 7yrs woth just one relationship for 4 mths. People suggest joining classes/groups but Im not really a hobby type of guy so don’t really want to join something just for the sake of meeting women.However I would love to learn how to randomly approach a girl on the street or at a supermarket or even at a bar for example but don’t know how! People in general these days just seem so unapproachable and unwilling to chat if they don’t know you. I don’t really blame them though as it seems so unnatural.I’m just screaming at myself inside at what the hell I’m doing wrong. I’m not too forward (quite the opposite), but I m a nice guy and often told I’m quite nice looking! People as shy as me seem to stumble over girls randomly, that never seems ro happen to me!It would be great if you guys (especially ladies) could give me advice on how I can chat up a girl who I’ve never met before. How do ladies like to approached? be complimented without being cheesy or sleazy? What do I say to get them to stop and chat? and where are the best places you girls like to be approached? Can you suggest some sort of date coaching group I can go to maybe?Appologies for all the questions but any hel will be much appreciatedThanks in advance! ;-)
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reader, faenon  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 Definitely trying to hard mate, love is one thing that cannot be hurried or pushed brother no matter how many times one may be hurt there is plenty of fish in the sea so to speak and patience pays off instead of pushing yourself. Relax and dont worry about be yourself thats the key. We're both young mate no age limit when it comes to love either mate im 31 single for 2years now after my divorce and I know where your coming from getting back into the dating scene is scary but pushing yourself and worrying over isnt the answer just be yourself regardless.
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reader, Ck1 +, writes (27 December 2010):
hey, I understand what you are saying, but there is never to short of time to find the right girl! email me privately through dear cupid for a chat sometime. Goodluck :)
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