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writes:I have an issue when it comes to sexual pleasure. I get aroused when I'm with a boy, or by myself, but my arousal is in vain. I only feel pleasure for a few seconds before it is gone. I have tried many times, in every way, to achieve any sexual pleasure with complete and utter failure, and sometimes even ending in pain. I have tried masturbation, I have made multiple trips to toy shops, I know everything about my own body and what Should be pleasing, but nothing seems to help. My lack of pleasure has ended multiple relationships for me, and causes me a lot of emotional stress as well. Is there any way I can fix this problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): Maybe your focusing too much on the arousal aspect, if your with somebody and this is constantly on your mind you will not be able to relax properly. Whatever you do, take your time, getting over the barriers of the mind is 90% of the battle. I wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): A couple things come to my mind that we could discuss. Since you say you do know everything about your body then my advice to you is relax! I had issues with lack of feeling and then it took sometimes two hours to come to an orgasm. I would work on this alone at first! Make best friends with your clitoris. Don't worry about vaginal stimulation. For the first few times don't even think about the arousal or the orgasm. Be sure to go pee before and after because this can cause UTI's or irritation. I would just try to learn how your clitoris responds to different kinds of stimulation in a calm relaxed enviroment.
Also here is a good read. http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/cant-orgasm-heres-help-for-women
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): Try visiting a gyn, you may have a hormonal imbalance. Could there be an emotional reason? Maybe sex therapy will help you figure out what you need to do. Try the eroscillator. You need to relax, concentrate and focus to build up pleasure and orgasm. You're very young so this will most likely change over time. Many women find that their sex drive increases as they mature. Don't loose hope.
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