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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years, been living together for 2. About 6 months ago, I had reason to believe he was cheating on me and I became very suspicious of him. I would acuse him of things often and ask him questions that would soon turn into fights. We would get along well until I would question him about something. We began to resent each other, me because I thought he was cheating, and him because I was always getting mad at him for things he didn't do. Well, I now recently found out and know he WASNT cheating on me, however he WAS lying about some minor things that I wouldn't have been happy about. I am able to get over what I found out, but I think we both still have resentment towards each other. We can go out and have a good time but I know any little thing could cause a fight. :-/ I want to go back to before this, when we would always get along and not have some sort of secret bad feelings towards each other. He also barely wants to have sex anymore, when we were fighting once he told me "even though you are one of the most beautiful women I know, I am NOT attracted to you anymore because you are such a B*TCH, constantly get mad at me for things I didn't do, and always put me down!!!" basically I think he's turned off of me, thinking I'm a complete nagging b*tch. Or maybe he's just tired of me now that we've been together for 3 years. :( I've tried to be as nice as I can be to him and go out and have a good time together, but it's hurtful when he doesn't EVER try to have sex with me and when I try to initiate it, he tells me he's tired etc. What can I do to make it like the begining of our relationship, when he was excited to do anything with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 April 2010):
The big (and I do mean big) problem here is that you accused him of cheating and it turns out he hasn't. You can't take that back now, and he thinks you don't trust him or love him, which is why he's turned off. I would suggest talking to him and saying that you're sorry for accusing him of cheating, and you understand that he is hurt. Then ask for a chance for you both to get this to work again, and really work at it. This means no accusations unless you have absolute proof.
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