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writes:I've known her for three years now, and I've liked her for a while now. We're pretty close friends. It's just, she's on my mind so much that it hurts sometimes. I have a feeling that she doesn't share these feelings, even though she does care for me a lot. I want to tell her how I feel, but I don't want to make things awkward for us. Two other guys told her, both got rejected. One is still friends with her.I'm not sure if I should tell her...but I do know that I need to resolve this soon or else it's going to negatively effect me (it already is actually). But if I'm just going to be rejected, whats the point? Someone once said it's a man's duty to tell a girl how you about her. I'm thinking of trying to spend more time with her, just the two of us, and tell her later on, maybe when I give her her birthday present later this year.What should I do? What do you think?I've known her for three years now, and I've liked her for a while now. We're pretty close friends. It's just, she's on my mind so much that it hurts sometimes.I have a feeling that she doesn't share these feelings, even though she does care for me a lot. I want to tell her how I feel, but I don't want to make things awkward for us. Two other guys told her, both got rejected. One is still friends with her.I'm not sure if I should tell her...but I do know that I need to resolve this soon or else it's going to negatively effect me (it already is actually). But if I'm just going to be rejected, whats the point?.I'm thinking of trying to spend more time with her, just the two of us, and tell her later on, maybe when I give her her birthday present later this year. Or should I just slowly stop contact with her and try to forget her?What should I do? What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Well, I think you should tell her... pretty sure if its been a 3 year friendship that you'll get rejected, but I think you might need that rejection so you can stop longing for this girl that you can't have and move on. Plus it'll be good to get this off your chest- its clearly weighing you down. Who knows, there's still a chance she'll say yes..
Best of luck aye :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 I think you should tell her as soon as you can, you say what is the point if you are rejected? Well the point is that at least you know were you stand and you can accept that she doesnt want to be with you and you can move on knowing that you tried and that you arent beating yourself up about it every day, tell her that if she doesnt feel the same way then you understand and if you still want to continue the friendship then tell her this and tell her it shouldnt be awkward she should take it as a compliment so go tell her. Good Luck.
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