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writes:Help me I'm going mad, after my 3 week split with my partner, well let's just say he has a new woman, basically I know that they are seeing each other but are not in a relationship yet just seeing how things are going. Anyway about 3 hours ago I got a mate of mine to drive round his house to see if he's there or round her house, deep down I knew he was over hers and he was, the reason why I got her to go with me was the different car. I'm going completey mad. I've never done this before and I know it's because I still have strong feelings for him.My question is, when he says he's seeing her and how things go what does he mean by that??I've never heard anyone say that before.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (20 October 2008):
 That is bull. Ive heard that before when an ex started hanging out with someone new, and i had finished with him, and wouldn't get back with him, and supported the new girl. But he kept saying its nothing serious, we are just having a bit of fun, i know she's a bit young for me and will wanna be out all the time blah blah blah etc etc, then within a week or so they were flat out together, and no one ever hears from him these days. He's got his new relationship.
It will hurt you for a while because you didn't long split, and thats understandable. Grieve and time will help.
Good luck.
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reader, BlueAngel..x +, writes (20 October 2008):
 Firstly, sorry about the end of your relationship, i understand how difficult it is when you still have strong feelings for someone. They're always on your mind, right?
Well, I have personally been in this situation where I was the one seeing someone and seeing how things go.
In my case, I wanted to have a first hand experience at an insight into my possibly new found relationship. Why rush into a full on relationship when it could turn out to be the unexpected?
I presume this is also the case with your partner and to be honest, this could be because he also still has feelings for you. This all depends on the duration of your relationship of course. If it was long term then he could not possibly have lost all feelings for you within a 3 week split. I can assure you that is most certainly true, presuming the fact that your partner genuinely did care for you and love you like he should have done.
Be positive, this could lead to the best for you. He may realise what he is missing by seeing this person. I can assure you he obviously does not feel strongly for this person as then there would be no need to 'see each other to see how things go'.
Hope you manage to settle your confusion.
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reader, shellers96  +, writes (20 October 2008):
well, I think that what he means by 'seeing her & seeing how it goes' what he is really saying is that he is with her but is not going to make an 'honest woman' of her and be with her in a proper way, he does not want to tell you that he is with her in a boyfriend way as he doesnt want this to spread and her to get the wrong idea. Fact is that this person is a rebound and that he is just seeing her to fill the recently emptied gap. In my opinion I wouldn't go around seeing where he is because he didn't value your relationship enough to give it the respect that it probably deserved, being with someone else in the 3 week period was either a cry for help or a happy release...... you decide
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): He means that he is moving on. "He is going to see how things go". He is trying something,which he is not sure if it will work or not. He needs to see and find out.Best you forget about him and find somebody else. Driving around checking on him will make you sick and miserable.Don't do this to yourself.Forget about him.
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