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writes:okay this is going to sound crazy but im 16 about to be 17 and im in love with a 30 year old. and trust me when i say that is not the worst part. he works at my school so i see him every day. he is the first person to give me that gut feeling your suppose to get when u fall in love. no im not a virgin so i have had Strong feelings for men before. i never liked boys my age maybe because i was a victim of molestation but older men is what i like. this person is married with children (2 daughters). i find myself coming to school every single day just so i can see him...i talk about him all the time to EVERYONE, my friends, my mom, anyone who will listen. i never come right out and tell my feelings but you get the idea. my question is what should i do sometimes i fell he kind of likes me but same time i dont. he is completely untouchable which brings me too the worst part is this man is a COP
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthis is mostly for Psycology 101
hii umm about my molestion it was by my step dad who still lives with me (but it stoped)and ii feel like its best if ii doo nothing about it, too many people will get hurt, plus i was adopted soo it would be a mess and ii will be out soon. everyone is right its not worth it but how do u fight the feelings and the temptation? im honestly not looking for a relationship with him in my mind but my heart tells me something different. why cnt u CHOOSE who u want to fall inlove with..
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): Actually the worst part isn't that he is a police officer, it is that he is in a position of responsibility at your school. There are laws and regulations with large penalties for the person in a responsible position should romantic behaviour occur between them and their charges.
So do your crush a favour, and let it slide until you leave school. Doing otherwise risks him losing everything: his liberty, his job and any future work closed to sex offenders, his money and his family, That would be a large burden for you to live with for the next 70 years.
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reader, meenfriend  +, writes (26 February 2010):
well you may like the way he looks talks,but the only time you see this man is at school you dont know if he crazy or what and if he is smart he would wait tell you are 18.and that should be for any older man im 26 and if they girls is not in her late 17s or 18.it may not be worth it.there are so many guys out there just give love time it will find you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): urrmm well to be honest, there isnt much you can do. i guess you could try and be with him as much as possibe. without obviously being in trouble. its very unlikly that you will end up together but i guess if he gets you that feeling there is nothing you can do.
And by the way i noo what it's like to have that feeling :)
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reader, Jak Tobin  +, writes (26 February 2010):
 Hey there! :)
Don't go there. He's married. He has children.
However, I know how you feel.
I fell for a 40 yr old guy who works at my old school.
Lucky for me he's single, and I had the courage to tell him how I felt. (After I left school though. Would have been very bad if I'd told him whilst still at school.)
He is, as you say, completely untouchable.
I know it will be hard but trust me, you need to fight these feelings.
JT.
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reader, Psychology101 +, writes (26 February 2010):
There are so many issues here i think you need to deal with each of them Individually. The first one is your Molestion, that may have something to do with your attraction to older men. Now, to your quetion about this older guy, there isnt much you can do. First its against the law. Second, he is married. If you were meant to be with him with time it will happen maybe at another time in your life. Let me know if you have other questions.
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