A
female
 ,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I'm 22 and I went out with some friends on new years eve to our local pub. We all met up at one of our houses first and most of the group were in couples except me and one guy who I inatantly knew I wanted to get to know him better. While we were down the pub, he asked alot about my interests and job etc, then this guy went with some of the others to another pub to meet a girl who he had seen around a few times before, leaving me with one of our female friends.They came back after about fifteen minutes. This guy said he was not interested in this other girl. He said that his ex girlfriend (who left him for someone else) had told him she wanted to get back with him and she was texting him the night we went out as far as I know. Anyway, the rest of the group were talking to each other, leaving me to talk to this guy. We got to know each other quite well and were getting on really well. We both like similar things.The girl he went to another pub to see came over to the pub we were at and over to our table. She didn't speak to the guy and vice versa, but she works with one of the other girls that was with us, so they were talking to each other.I carried on talking to this guy. He started offering to buy mec drinks after a little while and then he found out what I like to drink, so bought me a couple of those too. He wasn't very drunk as he hardly drunk anything all night.At one point I suggested that he come to a local sports game for my favourite team as we are both into football (I watch, he plays and watches). He said yes, so I guess in a way I had just asked him out without realising or thinking too much about it.He didn't want to come outside with us to celebrate new year so he was left inside on his own while we all went outside to see the fireworks. When we went back in, one of the guys we were with was watching me and this guy talking and the other guy started textin the guy I was talking to even though they were sat opposite each other.I didn't swap numbers with the guy - he didn't ask for mine, I didn't ask for his and we didn't offer to give each other either of our numbers.We all stayed over at one of our friend;s house at the end of the night. He still spoke to me then and was still being nice and considerate, but he was still texting a bit. I was too worried about being played and that he might get back with his ex. I had to leave early the next morning and he woke up as I was leaving to say happy new year to me. This was all a week ago. I would like to see him again but don/t want to add him on facebook in case he was just messing me about or he thinks I'm a stalker or something. I also don't want him to think I want to rush into anything. I am seeing one of our mutual female friends tomorrow and she knows him a bit better than me. Should I mention how I feel to her. What should I do? Was he genuinely interested and should I have taken the risk of giving him my number? Thanks!
View related questions:
drunk, ex girlfriend, facebook, his ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, HopelessRomantic66  +, writes (9 January 2011):
If he's texting others while he's talking to you, he's not that interested. If he was interested, he would put that phone down and give you his undivided attention. He also would've asked for your number.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): I don't get some women. If he had wanted your number he would have asked you. when a man wants a woman there is no such thing as shy. The man doesnt want you thats all. Don't find excuses for him. I think he may want to use you for a one night stand. Women always mistaken sex for relationships. That new years night he was thinking about bangin u but a week has passed.He probably hasn't even thought about you since.But if you dont agree and u find that you want a 2011 heartache ask your friend to give him your digits.Cause it seems that your lookin 4 a one nightstand with a man who already has a gf.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Alarm bells for ex still being in the picture and not getting your number and texting other people all night. You can hunt him down on fb but it will be pushing yourself on someone who wasn't feeling it. did he score?
...............................
A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 Hi well if you trust this girl and she knows him better then yes tell her how you feel she might be able to tell you a little bit more about this guy.
Ok so it does sound that he was interested in you. Maybe he was to shy to ask you for your number therefore he didnt or maybe he never thought about it until it was to late.
I think your best option is to talk to your friend and she what she thinks and if she tells you he is a nice genuine guy then i think you should pluck up the courage and add him on facebook am sure he wont think of you as a stalker and at least that way you will know where you stand with him.
Goodluck.
...............................
|
