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*S1985
writes:I am 25 years old and I have never had a serious girlfriend in my life. I have dated quite a bit but it's usually just one date and it never gets anywhere beyond that. They usually stop talking to me, even if the date went really well and we had a lot of fun. They don't even tell me why and just stop talking to me. It's been this way for me my whole life. There hasn't been a female who has liked me even enough to want to want to give me a chance. I have only had sex once and that was when I was 17. I wasn't ready but I kind of forced myself to go through with it. The reason I did that was because I had a feeling I was never going to fall inlove and lose it to someone I really cared about. I have been right so far. Women seem to not be interested in me. I really want be with someone who is like my bestfriend. I want things to be almost pefect. It seems that a lot of females are the same. They seem to have a lot of issues and they pick guys who aren't good guys. Women have chosen me over some of the lowest forms of life. That just makes me feel so bad about myself. Thinking about it, the women I have been on dates with seem to be not good enough for me. I don't know if they feel they don't deserve me or what. I treat women with respect and I am honest. I am not perfect at all and I have flaws just like everyone else. Another thing that bothers me is that I don't give them any influence to better themselves. It's all a long story and there is so more I could say but I will just keep it at this. Why do you think it has been this way for me and will probably be for the rest of my life. When I was like in middle and high school, I never really let it get me down because I thought it was just a stage and it would all pass as I got older. But, it's been the same as it's always been. Why? Reply to this Question
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reader, JS1985 +, writes (17 September 2010):
JS1985 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for taking the time to read my question, your feedback, and your kind words. You're probably right and I thought that may have been part of the reason. I'm a pretty sincere and foward person and that probably has done me more bad than good. I just don't know how to handle myself in these situations as everything has always been the same. I just wish someone could see how new it is to me and be strong enough and like me enough to try and put more effort into it, and myself.
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reader, Denizli  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 I don't think it's always gonna be that way for you. I know how you feel, it feels like you're gonna be alone for the rest of your life, it's some kind of hopeless feeling but it's not gonna be like this forever.
I can't tell you exactly why this happens to you but I'm sure you're a great guy and you deserve a wonderful woman, but sometimes it takes a little long for that special person to come.
You really sound like my boyfriend. He never had a gf before me, he's in his early twenties. We met like 2 years ago, we starting being friends, then best friends and now we have an amazing relationship, I've had some other relationships in the past but nothing compares to what me and my guy have now. We're best friends and lovers.
He used to say he'd never find a girl who loves him as he is, and he's said that before he met me he thought he'd always be alone, so it was worth to wait.
You shouldn't worry so much about this, because love comes to you in the least expected moment, you never realize until you have fallen for someone, that's how it is.
You wonder why women never ask for a second date? It's hard to tell really but it may have something to do with your attitude, we women can feel when some guy is insecure or and that probably makes women run away from you, it could be also the way you talk to them what scares them. You don't really sound like a bad guy so I just think it may have something to do with the way you act in front of them. It's not like you have to pretend to be something you are not, it's more like the opposite to that; you have to let things come naturally.
Just don't give up trying, I'm sure theres a hundred of women out there who would love to go on a date with you, one of these may be the right one, believe me, everything will come itself.
Good luck with this :)
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