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writes:I am a 22 year old man who is still a virgin. Despite the fact that I am a black belt, eagle scout, and college graduate I still feel like I am a failure because I haven't had sex at my age. I know several women my age that would like me but I am affriade to take the risk of getting a girl preagnet before I have a career and the ability to take care of her. Is this asign of weakness or maturity?
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reader, BeautifulCapricorn +, writes (24 January 2011):
im 24 and im a virgin. i think that you are making a wise choice to wait. this is definitely a sign of maturity and resposibility
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reader, J.T.1988 +, writes (11 January 2011):
 You and me both buddy -_-
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reader, failwulfe +, writes (9 January 2011):
 respnsible responsible responsible!
your awesome
you just havent gotten sucked in to societies imabe of the lovable whore (sarcasm)
besides a bad relationship could take away any chance of an excellent career and happiness, or end up with an unhappy child who does without because of stress or drama that comes along with it.
awesome, think of yourself first, once a person takes care of themselves and are happy with themselves,
THEN they can fully give to another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Of course Maturity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): I say maturity, and you should be proud since you are guided by rational thinking and not by primal instinct.
Judging by your accomplishments you already are a success by many standards. You have mastered a martial art; you have survival skills and you have a college education. That's more than many people can say that they have accomplished, So don't feel that you are a failure or weak.
Your fear however comes from being out of your element. Your past accomplishments were won by being specifically goal oriented. Relationships and sex aren't so objective based, so you get fearful not knowing what to do first. Pregnancy is always a fearful prospect, but if you and your partner practice safe sex you two should be fine.
Identify what you want really, just sex or an intimate relationship? After you know what you want, get social. Meet up with the girls you mentioned and see where it goes, but don't go too out of your comfort zone and be pressured to do something you would otherwise regret.
So don't be afraid and take this as another challenge, and you will be happy with the results.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 January 2011):
Maturity. Most people don't think of the consequences of sex, so it's nice to hear that you want to have your life in order before even taking the risk of having sex. It's the rest of us that are weak that give in to having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Maturity bro. It's great you care and have a conscience about being with a girl as most people, with respect those on this board, in your particular society do not care. I admire this. If you are just looking for an experience and dont want to attach emotion to your first time, Id say give it a shot with one of your lady friends and have some fun. Otherwise, if you want to hold out make sure you make a thorough decision. Good luck and you have our support whichever you do.
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