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writes:I broke every single rule when my ex and I broke up 2 years ago. We were both young and in love and nieve, soo.... in other words we made mistakes and said stupid things to make eachother hurt. I've dated other guys since this, but... nothing has really stuck or felt the same. Mostly just flings or me dating guys just to get over him. Point is. It didn't work.I've finally stopped denying to myself that I still love him and I'm IN love with him.I want him back. I need him back. Help?
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reader, Bella555 +, writes (23 November 2010):
I tend to agree with The Realist and Fairycakes that you should communicate to your ex your desire to get back together, with the acknowledgment you're both older, wiser, and most importantly, that the past is the past. If you're going to discuss any of the flaws of your previous relationship, do so calmly, with the readiness to take responsibility for your end of it. Ideally, the two of you can meet and have fun for a short while, taking a walk or going to a cafe or the like, and everything will happen naturally, i.e., sparks will fly, or at least the experience will be positive with hope for the future.
Hope you two can work it out--good luck!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 I usually say that it is never a good idea to go back to ex's but I think it is what you truely want to do. You should talk to him about the idea of you two getting back together and see what he says. He may or may not want to though. If he does then great but there is a chance that he won't want to. I don't mean to get your hopes down but I want you to be realistic about this. There is no reason why you two can't be together but if he says know then you have to let him go and move on. There is no point waiting around for someone who may never come back to you. Also I don't know how much you keep in touch with him so I don't know if you know about his other relationships. My advice to you is that if he has a gf and he's happy it's best to forget about him and make the hard descision for yourself about not even asking him.
It's always a tough situation with ex's and I hope when you talk to him things work out for you.
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