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writes:My bf of 2yreas hasnt yet pr0posed and its seri0usly geting t0 me. im 18 and he 23. he never even bringz up the subject. cud it be that he doesnt l0ve me? Reply to this Question
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reader, beachbabe  +, writes (17 August 2009):
 2 yrs is not long. Sounds like he is waiting till the time is right. Relax =]
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reader, Jay_xxxxx  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 Talk to your boy friend about this, tell him what you feel and he should understand. If he still hasn't brought up the subject don't be scared to bring it up yourself. Tell him you love him and he should repsond to this if not then you know where you stand.
Hope I helped
Jay x
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reader, busy04  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 Just because he hasn't asked you to marry him, does not mean that he doesn't love you sweetheart!
It's only been 2 years & you two are still getting to know & learn about each other. And sometimes 2 years isn't nearly enough time to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, even if you do love them. Marriage is a HUGE, HUGE responsibility, it's not just something that you can take lightly & maybe your boyfriend understands this. Maybe he's waiting because he wants to make sure that he can really provide for you & preparing for a life with children. Obviously you want to be married to him, but seeing that you're so young, I would focus more on being a good partner/girlfriend to him right now, and getting stable financially & educationally, as those things do play a part in marriage after love. And also make sure that you live YOUR life first! So many young people get married at a young age and get older with children & a spouse and begin to regret not having freedom, and living too fast. Don't be one of those people, have your fun now & enjoy life as it is because once you do get married, you may not have that same chance. I'm not saying that marriage is a bad thing (because it's not, it's wonderful!), I'm just saying give yourself some time to live, so when you settle down you'll have no regret or remorse, but will have & experience a healthy marriage & family.
What is the rush? You're still young, you have plenty of time. Marriage will come, when it is time :)
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reader, EXPLICIT00 +, writes (16 August 2009):
you cant rush things. some people wait 10 years to get married. you may be ready, but he may not be. maybe hes waiting for you to bring it up. let him know your thoughts. im sure he loves you if its been 2 years. ask him questions like "where do you think we'll be in 5 years?".
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): He is very young, so are you. But if it bothers you, don't show it...meanwhile you could read a very, very old fashioned book which ..works..'fascinating girl'. But personally, I would NOT base any marriage or relationship on 'techniques' that work because it means you'll have to keep working it. Now who wants a relationship like that? But back to your case, you two are very, very young, so marriage is probably a serious priority in his mind just yet.
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reader, Jen, +, writes (16 August 2009):
 I don't think that the reason is he doesn't love you. Marriage is a big commitment. Your only 18, do you really want to be stuck in a marriage at quite a young age?
If he never brings up the subject it's probably because he's not thinking in that area yet.
I have an Auntie and Uncle who have been together for 8 years now, and are still not married, but it works a favour for them because they are independent but still in love.
You don't have to be married to stay together.
If you really do want to commit then why not bring up the subject yourself?
Jen x
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