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writes:Is it ok for me to date a guy that is 19 and I am 14?. I really like him and don't want to let him go. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): Hey hun, I agree with the others. It is not okay. I know that 5 years doesn't feel like a lot to you, but it should to him. He is already out of school and you (are in 8th or 9th, right)? I have been there. If you stay together, you will probably end up feeling robbed (like I do). Why you ask? Think about high school. A 23 year old isn't going to want to go to Prom (I didn't go). Not to mention problems when you graduate or hang out (When he is 21, you will be 16 and won't be able to go out). it is just too much distance. I know it isn't the answer you wanted but.....
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reader, nevets122  +, writes (31 July 2007):
no its not alright especially when your only a child, someone who is 19 should not even be looking at a girl your sort of age you could get into all kinds of trouble with your perants. its seems to me this guy has some levels of pheadophile in him stay well clear because you could be easily influenced by him, and end up doing something you regret later in life.
look for someone around your sort of age, if you still feel the same when you are 16 years old then go for it, but until that time comes please stay away i dont want anything bad happening to you
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reader, Straight Up +, writes (22 July 2007):
 no way cut that off completely
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (22 July 2007):
 Break it off. I can say why in two words "major drama".
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (22 July 2007):
 I dont see a problem as long as you be responsible and not let him push you into anything, most situations like this, its older guys trying to get what they can from younger girls. Be careful and look out for yourself love.xxxx
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reader, 88jane +, writes (22 July 2007):
 There is no problem in a 5 year age gap but there are several things that will get in the way of this relationship.Firstly, you are too young for sex, its illegal and your boyfriend may not want to wait around for you to become old enough! however, he can be prosecuted of he has sex with you! This could mean that he finds sex elsewhere (im sorry to say it but im just trying to think like a guy here!)Also you are still a kid and he is an adult,you should enjoy your youth while you still can, just as yummy mummy said, he will want to go out clubbing and doing things that adults do, these are things that you wont be able to join in for many years!I think you should just be friends with this guy! i dont want to sound pessimistic but i don't think this relationship would work at this age! Be friends and maybe when you are older if your both single you can start something up!xxx
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (22 July 2007):
 Yes and no. I see no harm in you dating a 19 year old guy but bear in mind-
-he's an adult, you are a child. Why would a 19 year old want to date someone who is only 14?
-is is ILLEGAL for anything sexual to happen. He could go to prison.
-what would your parents think of the age gap?
-won't he want to go out drinking/clubbing/doing things 19 year olds do? What will you do then?
I do agree with mistakenstrangers- you are both probably best off being friends for the next couple of years, until you at least become legal so to speak then see if you still feel the same.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (22 July 2007):
 The answer is half yes half no.You have to think what does he want from dating a minor.Also you have to know thats its illegal to have sex or do anything sexual for 2/4 years depending on your state. The other aunt/uncle are right your childhood goes fast so make sure its worth it.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (22 July 2007):
 There's nothing wrong with an age gap if you are both consenting adults, which in this case you are not.
You really need to think about what a man of 19 wants from a relationship with a 14 year old child.
Your teenage years do not last long enough as it is so please don't through it away getting involved with an adult.
Take care.xx.
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reader, MistakenForStrangers +, writes (22 July 2007):
 Short answer is "no"...however, being in this situation myself, albeit on the other side so to speak, sticking to just "being freinds" is the only option you two have.I know a lot of people will have their concerns, but if this guy is respectful and descent then he'll be willing to wait a few years.If this is a problem for him then he isn't worth it.
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