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writes:Hi everyone, strange problem.A few days ago, I had a very stressful day at college. It seemed like everyone was trying to irritate me, and cause me some kind of stress. I find that stress causes me to dwell on me and my ex splitting up earlier this year. I suppose it is natural to think about things that make you miserable when you're stressed?Then later that day, I felt grumpy all evening. I'm sure I appeared moody infront of my family that night, but I figured "oh well, this is just an off night, lets see how things are tomorrow". Unfortunately, ever since Friday, I'm finding myself snapping at people a little more often.What's causing this to happen? I really don't feel quite as stressed as I was, but I can see that my attitude is still not as good as it should be towards other people, like my family. I wondered if this was a hormonal thing? I mean, I'm 19, but I haven't felt this much like a teenager for years! I don't remember ever feeling this way when my girlfriend was around :sPlease help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAll are good ideas, so many thanks to you both. I did find this very wierd, since I'm a guy I don't expect hormones to cause me any trouble. I suppose I have been stressed for a while now, but Friday just brought on much more than I needed. I won't go into what brought the stress on in full, but I can tell you it involved a lot of unnecessary bickering
My girlfriend left me 4 months back and that has really messed with my head. I thought we were doing great together, and then suddenly she just didn't want a boyfriend anymore. Caused me lots of pain. I guess that what's caused the most stress this year, and I think that's maily what's brought this on. Things like College work, deadlines and bickering are just adding to it. It's not good.
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (12 November 2007):
 Hi there.
Sorry about this.
If you were a female, i would definitely say it is hormonal, but i'm not sure how much a guy is affected by hormones. First you have to determine if you've changed your diet in any way. Did you start taking new medication, or have you started eating differently, or exercising more or less?
If yes, then your moods might be because of somethings you've changed. If not, then the next question.
Why have you been stressing? Was it only one day of stress, or is there something more, like exams looming, or a big event that you have to attend? This might very well be the cause.
I know that when i'm stressed, or my work is not good, then i also snap at the people closest to me.
Very difficult NOT too sometimes, and afterwards i feel bad.
The good thing here, is that you recognize your problem. Why don't you sit down, and determine exactly why it is that you are stressing, and eliminate that factor in your life. If it is an exam, then make sure you study enough, if it is a friend, then back off at some point.
Take some time to relax - just lying on your bed and listening to soothing music.
In saying this, it might be hormones. In that case, i don't think it is a bad idea to go to the doctor.
I reached a point about 3 years ago, where i was very snappy and emotional. I gave my daughter one hell of a hiding, and then, broke down in a sobbing fit.
I went to see the doctor the same day, and they put me on a mild anti-depressant. I had delayed depression, from a break-up 6 months prior...
The pills really did help - because depression is mostly caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. And i took them for 5 months, and was totally okay after that.
Thing is, you KNOW something is not right, but you have to determine exactly what it is. Speak to your family, they might have some valuable advice.
Either way, don't just leave it. If you are not comfortable with speaking to your family, just go to a doctor. They've dealt with situations like this a million times.
Good luck, let us know hom it goes...
Hope you feel better soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): i think it would be a great idea if you get one of your favorite hit singles (music) and go by the lake,park, or a private place where you can just sit by yourself and reflect upon yourself. i know exactly how you feel. i am basically a girl who is always emotionally hurt and confused. the only way i know how to calm myself is when i listen to music and enjoy nature outside and look deep within myself. i sometimes drive with loud music on. however, i would only recommend that if your mind is content. if not, then just sit down, bring your i pod/cdplayer/etc and just meditate.
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