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writes:I am 18 years old and no boy has ever liked me.No one has ever approached me.No admirers, no suitors, no boyfriend. EVER. I don't think I am that ugly. I'm tall for my age and race and am not too fat nor too thin. I like wearing appropriate clothes that make me feel beautiful.I'm like the average girl who would feel beautiful at times and would also feel fat and ugly at other times. I believe I am smart and talented too. I'm studying at the top university of my country and play the piano very well and am also good at canvas painting. I'm not really a talkative person but I don't think I'm shy. I'm just not the type of person who would initiate a conversation. I have joined a few organizations in my university and have met new people, but still, there's no one.There are a few boys that I could joke around with, most of which already have girlfriends but my friendship with boys is not that deep compared to the friendship I share with girls. I'm just not that comfortable when I'm around boys because as I've said, I'm not really the type who would start a conversation so I don't really know what to talk about when I'm around boys. I just feel that I'm being left out because most of the people I know who are my age already have someone or already had experiences with these things.I know people would say that "It will come in time", but I'm just worried.What if it won't? Is there something that I'm doing wrong?
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reader, lakers_lover09  +, writes (29 September 2011):
You sounds like a great catch. Im my gf's gpfirdt bf too and she is gorgeous and perfect and everyway. She dresses like u describe urself too. Thing is, we almost didnt,happen beacuse she had no clue I was pursuing her . out urself out there and make guys more comfortable with a smart pretty talented girl like urself :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2011): I'm tall and shy around men as well. Over the years, i've cone to realize that men will often admire a tall, intelligent, accomplished woman from a distance, but if you don't talk to them or make your interest known, they usually: assume you are stuck up and they don't have a chance; believe you are not interested in men; or they are intimidated by your height and accomplishments.
If you want to find an admirer, you need to have a little bit of confidence, and begin to introduce yourself to (or have a friend introduce you to) men, and begin to speak to them so they realize you are approachable and available.
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reader, KittieS  +, writes (28 September 2011):
 Oh my lovely, what a catch you sound!!!
There is NOTHING wrong with you lady, I'm a tall girl and it took me so long too feel confident around guys.
Embrase yourself, love yourself! I have in my life found when you don't look they arrive!! Don't be het up on finding a man, enjoy your life your soon find they will find you x
And don't think internet dating is a no-go I met my man through Internet dating, and it's great as you chat online for a bit helps confidence Le els trust me x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2011): At your age I felt very similarly. I had very bad luck with boys. I had lots of crushes but no boyfriends and my crushes always said they weren't into me when I told them.
Well, I ended up in some bad situations because I got overly concerned about having a boyfriend. I know it sounds cliche but it is very likely you will find someone special when you're not really looking. Also, try not to hurry love along, that's how you end up in a bad situation.
Don't worry too much about it right now. Just continue to meet new people and pactice chatting. Also, if you do meet a boy without a g/f and you like him, just ask him to hang out, no strings attached or anything. Even if you just end up as friends it is good practice for talking to boys. Really they aren't as different from us as they pretend to be.
You're smart and independant, and I'm guessing you'll find someone. :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2011):
 No there is nothing that you are doing wrong. But you struggle to start a conversation with guys therefore you don't seem to have the confidence around men and they can sense this and therefore that is probably why the don't approach you. You need to build up the confidence to talk to men. Try not to worry about it, it is just the same as talking to girls. It is nothing to be nervous about. So just general chit chat to start off with will be a big improvement, let them see that you are friendly and approachable.
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