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writes:I'm 20 years old and I'm with a 38 year old man who represents everything I want in a partner. We 'clicked' the moment we met and now have an undeniable connection; we just seem to fit together. I love him deeply, and he feels the same. We REALLY want to make it work. The problem: Parents say NO (due to his age). I'm a sophomore in college, and therefore I'm still dependent on them to co-sign for loans, my car is in their name, and I'm on their cell phone plan. They threaten to take all this away if the relationship doesn't end. I worry, but at the same time I care about this man so much that I don't mind losing my car or cell phone. My partner says he'll cover any cost, college or whatever, to keep me stable. He's willing to do anything for us. We've talked about me moving in with him and just going to a local college, which I'd be completely willing to do, but I don't want to drive a wedge between my family and I. BUT I honestly believe this man could be 'the one.' What do I do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Frosted_Mint +, writes (17 July 2008):
Frosted_Mint is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow...what a coincidence. The very night that I posted my question, my father came into my room around 2:30 saying how he couldn't sleep, and wanted to talk. It was mostly about the entire situation that I just shared with all of you, and he was ever so randomly acceptive of my partner and I!! He said he'd be willing to give this guy a chance under certain conditions (having to do with staying focused in my studies). They haven't met him yet; we've been meeting in the utmost secrecy. It's a happy, happy day everyone. Whatever time I have in this life with my partner, no matter how old he is, is time very well spent. Besides, he's a good-lookin', in-shape guy. He'll be around for a while if all goes well. :) A step towards the light at the end of the tunnel! Thanks so much for your replies. Woo hoo!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): Your parents are right, in the long run. One day, this age diffrence will make effect your relationship. BUT at the moment if your happy and willing to make that risk. Move in with him, if your parents really love you then they will slowly come around, they will never like it but accept it and thats something right?
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reader, Manximus  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 At the end of the day hun, this is your choice, not your parents. If this guy makes you happy, then go for it.
Your parents may be angry at the moment, but I am sure that he can win over their respect in due time. If he loves you like he says, then he will make your parents see that you are happy.
Age is only a problem if you let it be a problem.
Have your parents met him yet?
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