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writes:I am 17 and still a virgin. I have had relationships, kissed guys, and just recently hooked up with an older guy who I went to 3rd base with. I felt very regretful after the hookup because I found myself wishing that had been someone who actually cared about me. Now when I think about it, I feel like all the other girls my age have done so much more than me without even being in relationships. I have one more year of highschool left and I highly doubt I'll fall in love or anything so I'll be a virgin going into college. I don't want to just lose my virginity to anybody because I feel like I'd lose my dignity if I did that. I would much rather wait for someone who cares about me. I don't think I am unattractive or anything of the sort; I've attracted guys, and this older guy I hooked up with was surprised that I was a virgin. I don't know what to do; is it uncool? Should I keep my standards high?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): BTW, being in college instead of high school does not do anything to prevent you from being used for cheap meaningless sex.
Plenty of girls keep their pants on in high school and then get to college and it all changes. They suddenly decide it's time for a slut phase since they're all grown up and mature now. A few months or years later they usually end up just as hurt & regretful as a high schooler who does that.
Use your head and get in a real relationship.
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reader, tmariee +, writes (24 July 2010):
omg yes!!!! stay a virgin. trust me sex isnt anything im 17 yrs also and just recently lost mine i dont regret it. i would have went to college a virgin i was very proud of it. i always told myself no matter what i would wanna lose it to someone i loved even if i knew we werent together i just wanted to be in love and happy and i was. were still together goin on 11 months. but i know if anything happened i wouldnt regret it because i stuck to my standards and waited till i was happy. you should be in love and happy sex is so much more special. and you would be suprised how many girls lie and honeslty havent done much. theres more virgins in high school than non virgins.. you should be proud of it nothing wrong at all. to all those girls who just use sex to get attention there unhappy with themselves and thts how they get attention from guys.. and trust me wen i say guys have way more respect for you wen you respect yourself and your body.. just wait till your ready and happy. it doesnt matter wat anybody says. u said wen u messed around with that guy u felt guilty correct? imagine how u would feel if u had done it all the way? its okay to wait just please please wait as long as u feel the need to.. no matter wat anybody says cause there not gonna matter wen u get older and have your life together.. just finish school get your career together and dont worry about silly things like sex.. it will all fall into place(:
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): No it is not uncool.You do what u feel is right, and if that is waiting until u find someone who cares about u, then u do that.
I'm also a virgin, with my 19 years of age and I understand how u feel. Where I live, it is very common for most girls to not be virgins, and it seems like I'm the odd ball out. Even because of that I only have friends who are guys, cause all those girls want to just talk about sex and I'm the weird, slow one who has nothing to say. Plus on top of that I have to find a guy who will respect my decision. But I'm still sticking to my beliefs, and I'm waiting until I'm with a special someone at least.
Think about it, if u felt crappy after hooking up with that older guy, cause he wasn't someone u cared about, imagine how would u feel if u did have sex with someone who was the same way? Sex is requires 2 people to be very close, and it only gets better if u really love that person and care for them. But your choice is up to u hun, like I said u do what u feel is right and don't let other people get in the way of what u believe in.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 No,it is not uncool. It is pretty cool, as compared to the scores of pathetic insecure teenagers that give their
bodies away as if they were giving away M&Ms- just to be reassured they are not totally unattractive or insignificant.
I think it shows character, and I think you can afford waiting for the right person to do it with.
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reader, loraemoon  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 keep with it if you are not ready dont loose your virginity to anyone you dont think is special just because you think its not normal or uncool, honestly you should be proud thinking the way you do, not many people think like that, wait untill that someone special comes along it will make it all the more meaningfull,
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): Oh no!! You dont need to rush. If you do you might get pregnant and ruin the rest of your life. A condom doesnt always work. Be Proud that your keeping yourself safe from Stds and aids. Your friends had gotten lucky. U should wait till that special guy comes. Then you two should get tested. Then have safe sex when your older...
thats just my say. Good Luck:)
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