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writes:Im 16 years old, in year 11 at high school. Im expecting A grades in my subjects and want to further my education and go to university. But I might be pregnant.It's with my boyfriend, who would be there for me but i doubt could provide money to support it. I want to know, could i continue my education without having to be held back a year if i am and kept it. If i am, i am most likely to get an abortion but i just want to know if i could if i kept it. x
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reader, Wraithress +, writes (9 November 2008):
Hey hun, yeah of course you can still have an education i was pregnant at 14 and kept the baby,
Im now 17 with 10 passed GCSE's (the high school graduation) and im in college doing a childcare course full time with a beautiful 2 and a half year old baby girl.
Let no one tell you cant have both, If your willing to work with it, you can have the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): Hi I'm nineteen and am in almost the same boat myself. The truth is though, that it would be extremely hard to have the baby, keep your grades up and not get held back one year. You must take in to account all things, especially the cost of diapers and food for just the baby alone. You also have to take your parents into consideration. Not nessicarily their opinions on what you should do, but more so if they could provide for you and help with the baby. If not its important to consider the cost of renting a place, or who could help you. Its more likely than not that you and your boyfriend would both have ot get jobs in addition to going to school. You also REALLY need to consider your boyfriend's opinion. It is possible to keep the baby, don't get me wrong, but you really have to take everything into consideration Especially medical insurance and everything. But befor you jump to conclusions I reccomend that you take a pregnancy test, and take things one step at a time. Best of luck to you honey! ^_^
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reader, chvyrdnck  +, writes (4 November 2008):
i was 15 when i got pregnant and kept the baby and finished school. i would not change anything my son is the best thing that has ever happened to me. it is hard but so worth it. i now have 3 boys and a baby on the way and i wouldnt change any of them for anything. i say keep the baby and be as happy as i am. you wont regret it one bit. good luck. and congrats on your little one
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (4 November 2008):
 Anythings possible and hopefully some of the young girls that have achieved it will post in here. But the fact you live in the Uk is to your advantage and there are lots of options to help you out if you decide to keep the baby and further your education. Plenty have done it.
I am guessing here, but I expect your gp or midwife (if it gets to that) will advise you who to contact about advice on what to do next. There is a charity called Life. Atleast there used to be. Might be worth looking that up. They might be able to point you in the right direction. Having a baby doesn't need to put a stop to your dreams, just complicates it a bit. But it can turn out how YOU make it remember.
Look into getting support, support and more support. We are a crap country in lots of ways, but in areas like this, we are years ahead of others. Make use of it if you need to. Our government know we need to look after our future generation education wise, rather than throw benefits at them. Hense the promotion ads on uni grants that are non repayable. So you're in with a good shout at the moment.
Good luck,
C xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Pregnancy usually puts the big stopper on a girl's plans.
I suppose if your parents would look after the baby you could continue your education, but you'd still spend the next 15+ years being a mother and looking after the child.
The thing is, your parents have already done with their child rearing days, so would it be fair on them to ask them to look after your baby? Unless your mother is very maternal, I doubt it.
Could you really concentrate on a university course knowing that you have a baby at home who is crying for its mother, reaching for a breast feed and wanting its nappy changed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): What's wrong with having a year of uni? most people do, I taken two years of! You can do part time cource in uni if you got the energy.
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