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anonymous
writes:Dear all, Myy BF of a few months has recently started trying to make me jealous about his ex , and the mother of his kids. ( they are apart). I am not sure why he is doing this , as things have been very good between us for the last few weeks, but he seems to enjoy rubbing in the fact that he is stil freinds with ex, and he still pops down to see her now and then, and also refers to his kids mother in the same sort of way. He says nothing is going on, but why on earth does he feel the need to keep going on about this? he seems to enjoy winding me up...Shall I teach him a lesson and not answer the phone to him for a couple of weeks? end it? or what? I actually told him last night he is upsetting me, and he just got sarcastic. It's not the first time he has done this. The thing that is confusing is that he is reliable ,sees me whenever he can, and is very attentive and loving when he is with me. I've tried talking to him, but he minimises the whole thing, saying I am reading in too much, and there is nothing in it, but there uis, as he seems to enjoy telling me to se a reaction. Shall I just cut him off to teach him a lesson, belive him, or levae him? I 'm kind of angry and confused as to why he feels the need to behave like this. Thanks - xx
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reader, Vee1 +, writes (28 June 2011):
 Its not easy for someone to just walk away from a relationship/marriage if there are kids involved and have full commitment to you. His ex is still going to have some significance due to having his children and if he is half a decent man he will want to continue with their upbringing. Having said that why he is taunting you is odd. It it was me, I would reiterate that his behaviour is hurting you, he may think he is being humorous and is unaware of the extent to which is hurting you emotionally.
There is little point in you paying mind games by ignoring him and cutting him off etc.
If you want to continue in a relationship with this man then he needs to be told numerous times that you are interested in him but do not wish to tolerate his little, hurtful games.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): Who's to say they still aren't FWBs? There's really no other reason he'd stay in touch with her. I don't think he's trying to make you jealous but he's letting you know in a roundabout way he still sees her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNot that Long!! when I met him, he had just split with her.. although he siad it was more of an FWB thing. Not serious. he even introduced me to her the first night I met him......she was somewhere he took me out too. She did not seem that bothered about me... but who knows? he has spent most of his time with me.. but now this?
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reader, Vee1 +, writes (28 June 2011):
How long has your boyfriend in his ex been apart?
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