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writes: I am 14 and i know you are all probably thinking what is 14 year old doing with a sex life and I know I shouldn't be thinking of boys and sex yet, but I slept at my boyfriends house for the first time and we ended up having sex for the first time. I have done wrong and I know that but I am pregnant and I dont know what to do. I have taken 2 tests that have shown positive and I am in a twizle. I dont know whether to tell my mum or get and abortion and not let any one know. Can anyone help please. thanx x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): i think you should tell your mom thats would be the best things to do you might be scared but who doesnt. dont give the baby up if you do you wil regret it for the rest of you life. be strong. your mom will walk and talk this to you ok .you did wrong but who doesnt jesus will forgive you no ones perfect jesus will forgive you as i close want to say god bless and loves you
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (12 June 2006):
 Tell your mum. She is the closest to you. She may be hurt, but will want whats best for her little girl. Yes you did wrong and you now know why it was wrong... By telling your mum, you will get all the support you need, whether you keep the baby, decide to have an abortion or give it up, your mum might be able to share her views on what would help, and what would be the best thing for all concerned to do, she will be in the best position to know what is best for you and how you can manage to get through this. Its going to be hard and you will need someone to be there for you whatever the outcome. And take heed from what has happend. You know just how easy it now is to become pregnant, and you admit to being wrong, please now try and understand why there are such age restrictions on sexual consent, and that you need to take responsibilty for your own actions when things go wrong.
Take care and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): I agree with Terrapin. Tell someone close to you, who you think will be supportive. You want to ideally find someone who can give you impartial advice. To let you make your own decision on what to do next, based on as much information as you can get.
Becareful telling any one other than who is close to you about this, or for asking peoples advice on abortion. A lot of people, men and women, seem to have such strong views on the subject yet VERY FEW have been in such a situation themselves.
No matter what you choose to do, you don't want to do it alone. These will be difficult times for you, but if you can share it with someone, it might be a little easier.
Good luck with what you decide to do, I'm sure it will become more clear to you when you share the news with someone and can spend more time weighing up the pro's and con's of each option.
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reader, sibaan +, writes (12 June 2006):
 i have been where you are and i understand exactly what your feeling. i also want you to know that i dont judge you for haveing a sex life already because i know how quickley things happen.
if you want to talk to someone who has experience with this then email me privately
xxx
sibaan
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reader, DoctorGayLove +, writes (11 June 2006):
Go talk to someone at your local Planned Parenthood office, they will give you advise on your options and what you can do. Good luck!
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reader, Terrapin +, writes (11 June 2006):
 Please tell someone close to you, sister, mum, dad or auntie. dont have an abortion without support, and make sure its what you want. There are other options, adoption or even letting your mum/sister/auntie etc adopt the baby. If you talk to your mum maybe she could take you to the doctors and get some kind of contraception afterwards, eg. the implant, injection, pill AND Comdoms. Dont forget that You need to talk to your boyfriend about the baby, and MAKE SURE you do not have any Sexual Diseases, talk to him and maybe get checked out at a GUM clinic. Please be more careful in future, and dont forget that if you want your baby, there is always a way to care for a child you will love. Good Luck
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