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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. We have lived together for the past eight months. He quit his job shortly after he moved in with me and my roommate. This nearly doubled my monthly expenses, but I was certain he would get a new job soon. He couldn't find work for six months, and I paid for everything during that time which really drained me. I even lost my car.He has now had a job for the last two months and still hasn't paid 100% of his part of the bills, but has come close because he has a lot to catch up on. He is also talking about breaking up with me when the lease is up if he doesn't see me change for the better. He says I drink too much and am too demanding of him. Both of these things are somewhat true and came about during his lack of employment. I am drinking less and trying to be more understanding now. Things were starting to go well when he broke this news on me.I feel I should get some leeway considering I have taken care of all his needs for 1/3 of our relationship. He has given me two months until his decision and will not sleep with me anymore, but rather on the couch.So my question is, does he really need the space to figure things out because of all the stress, or is he just using me more by staying here with cheap rent to save up to move out by himself in August? Who knows? I just wanted some input on this.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (12 June 2006):
 Sorry but I think kick him out now!!! Hes thinking of spliting up with you when the lease ends! how dare he, you have supported him all this time, its he thats needs to change not you!! Id tell him where to go now, it seems that you will be no use to him soon hence the reason he wants to break up. dont be a pushover, get him out, and find someone that wants to be with you for you and not for financial gain! Hes not been paying rent so would should he be able to stay there rent free until the end of the lease ? No two ways about it, hes not paid his way even when he could so move own honey, he is clearly using you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): Yes like person below, feels to convenient. It's time you lay down your wants and give him an ultimatum, but note that you should be prepared for him to leave you right then and there, which from this PoV, seems perfect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): Well, it was awfully convenient that he only wants to consider the future of the relationship at the end of the lease. Sounds very much like he's using you. I would tell him in no uncertain terms what you have laid down and sacrificed for him, and that it's time that he started paying his full share of the rent.
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