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writes: My b/f and i were at his apartment last night. We were in his bedroom and his phone rang indicating a text message. It was almost 2 am. He goes to the other room to get his phone and said it was his sister. He stays there for a minute or two and i guess he called her. He comes to the bedroom by the window to get better reception to speak. His apartment does not give good reception. The girl is talking about a guy and then he said " Did you tell your mom?" If it was his sister, why would he refer to their mom as her mom. I said that to him when he was done talking. He said his sis was having a guy a problem (she is older than him--i think 35 or something) Then he said:LOOK at the phone--the text is from her and who he spoke to was her. He probably knew what i was thinking--if a person is sneaky enough, they can easily just change the name to someone else. He said call the number then. I didn't call. Does it sound weird that he said your mom when it is his mom as well or am i being too suspicious? Was he just hoping i didn't call or should i trust it was his sister? I am tempted to copy down the number and see if it is her. My friend said if he was really trying to hide this girl and it wasn't his sis--why on earth would he choose to call after getting the text, why wouldn't he just say i will call her tomorrow and see whats up to avoid the situation....advice needed
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): If you know the sisters name, phone the number and ask for her. You will then know straight away if you were right, or just being very paranoid!
Promise yourself something though. If it turns out it is his sister, put all this behind you and spend some time reflecting on why you don't seem to have much trust in your boyfriend. A relationship without trust is.... not a relationship ;)
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (12 June 2006):
 It could be completely innocent, and its clear you dont trust him. Is it that because you dont trust him that you have blown this out of proportion ? It was probably a slip of the tongue on his part, and you heard it and put 5 together! You then went prying... I think you need to clear up your own insecurity issues, find out why it is that you feel you dont trust him, if you accuse him of somethign he hasnt done you could very well lose him over something that he didnt do! If your still not happy then ask him outright, but you could be the ones thats left looking silly, if hes not done anything before like this, and you have no other reason not to trust him, then i think its probably innocent, and you have to sort out your trust issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's me who posted the question. No its not his half sister and i have met her a few times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): Is it highly likely she is his half-sister? I myself have a half sister and half brother...same Dad-different Mothers. It is a possibilty, if you don't know his family that well..I'd ask him to clarify.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (11 June 2006):
 Probably innocent but you just will never know, you will just have to trust him on this as you have no evidence to suggest otherwise.
But yes it is strange about the mom thing!! slip of the tongue maybe.
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reader, DoctorGayLove +, writes (11 June 2006):
First of all, he could be completely innocent, or maybe he really is stupid enough to talk to his girlfriend in front of you at 2 a.m. and even ask you to call her. That's not the real issue though.
The real issue is why you don't trust him anymore. Has he proven in the past to be unfaithful? If not, perhaps you're unfairly placing past issues of other men on him. Either way, if you lack trust, the relationship will fail.
Also, a little tip, falsely accusing someone of something actually encourages them to do it. They figure if they'll get in trouble either way, they might as well make the fight worth it.
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