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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes: my boyfriend is 15 and he wants to have sex with me but i don't know if i want to remain abstinent or have sex with he says he's ready when i'm ready but i don't think thats true and he might dump me i'm scared though that it will hurt and i will be immoral Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 November 2009):
No, you're definitely not ready for sex. Read satindesire's article. Please don't do something you'll have to regret for the next 60-70 years.
Take care!
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (4 November 2009):
Sweetie, If he says he will be ready for sex when you are ready, then make him wait UNTIL you are ready!!
Chances are if he is not into you he will move along pretty quickly, and then you can congratulate yourself not giving up your virginity!!
You are still very young and by writing in to Dear Cupid you obviously have doubts about having sex with him, so rather wait, because once it is done, it cannot be undone.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): If you are not ready, don't do it. If he really breaks up with you because you won't have sex with him, he obviously isn't a very god boyfriend. He should understand how you feel and talk to you about it-not just shove it in your face!!!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): 14 is very young age to have sex; your fears and worries indicate that you are simply not ready.Any man that would leave you for that is not a man worth keeping-- believe me. A good boyfriend would respect your decision and wait until the time is right for you. Whatever you do, DO NOT have sex under pressure. Wait until YOU - NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND - want to have sex.
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reader, lola29 +, writes (4 November 2009):
if your bf decides to break up with you because of that, then he does not care for you and only for his sexual needs, you are too young to be worrying about making love. it should be done with someone you deeply care about and loves you back and wouldn't pressure you into anything, if you are to do it, it is obvious that it would be more in his part to want to do it. to be honest, it wouldnt be a nice experience for you since A. ur worried B. thats all he thinks about C. wat about protection have you thought of that?Getting pregnant at that age would not be fair to anyone and getting an STD isnt so great either. Take your time, you have your whole life ahead of you to think about when and with who to share this passion with. If your bf decides to dump you, you are not the loser, trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): If you want to buy a major expensive product then you wanna think hard about it. The salesman will probably tell you he is "ready" to take your money long before you are ready to make the purchase. But that doesn't make you hand it over, does it? Wait until YOU are ready. If you BF can't wait then tell him to go find someone else. Sex will not get or keep a BF that you didn't have already.
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