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writes:i'm thirteen years old and i want to start having sex with my boyfriend( we've been together for 4 months ) but im worried that if we have sex i may bleed on him when i break my hymen. We are obviously going to use a condom but i am scared he will be put off by all the blood. Help?xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): You should read the post from the 13 year old who is posting because she had sex and now she thinks she pregnant and has no idea how to deal with this because she was simply not mature enough to take this step.
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reader, ownpool  +, writes (5 May 2009):
If you are 13, you boyfriend will be commiting a crime in almost every state, a very serious crime if he is more than a year older than you. If you get pregant (if the condom breaks) he will be arrested and sent to juvenile hall or jail. You would have to have an abortion. To be safe, when you see him, you should be wearing a tampon whether or not it's really your period. That will turn him off if he gets you panties off, but you should insist on keeping fully clothed when you make out with him. If he's more than two years older than you he is too old for you. Even with a condom you can catch herpes and warts which will stay with you for life. This is a very dangerous idea.
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reader, TerryxxxHuynh +, writes (19 April 2009):
Well, its a natural you have to bleed unless you play sports, If you play sports its a 75% that your hymen is already broken.Without sex, well guys are attracted to virgins and he already knows your going to bleed, Well if he's mature and smart he would know. And I'm the same age as you and I'm still a virgin and guys keep on telling me they what to "pop my cherry" but I'm protective over my body except my butt cuz it's whatever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): You are 13!!!!! You are too young to have sex. Have fun in school leave the sex and boys alone.
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reader, Alli100 +, writes (7 April 2009):
Well i first had sex when i was 14 years old and my bf was 15. He wasn't turned off by the blood, he was fine with it cuz he knew it was goin to happen. It really wasn't that much blood to tell you the truth.
But just make the right decision, and talk to your boyfriend about it first and see how he is going to react.
- Good Luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): Maybe but am yet to see anyone else with such a poor rating. Your answer was still useless and no help to this girl.
Thankfully libra 1963 and hands down317 were able to offer good advice .
If this girl is still looking at this post I would advise her to compare your rating to those of libra 1963 and hands down317. I belive libra 1963 has a rating off 100 percent and hands down317 83 percent.
Enough said
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 April 2009):
 Ahhh...but that still leaves 64% now doesn't it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): eyeswideopen? Maybe you should be called eyesfirmlyshut. Comments like that are not helpful to anyone. No wonder 36 PERCENT of people rate your answers as poor. If you have not got something constructive to say then dont bother sayin anything.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 April 2009):
Another one bites the dust
Another one bites the dust
And another one gone, and another one gone
Another one bites the dust
Hey, I'm gonna get you too
Another one bites the dust
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): Honey, please listen to what u r saying! You are going to lose your virginity, you will probably feel a lot of pain or some discomfort. It will not be what you expect - it will be more discomfort more than pleasure and you are worried about him being turned off by the sight of blood?You need to be more concerned with your own health and safety. Are you ready for sex and all the consequences that may follow? You say you are going to use a condom, what if it bursts or slips off inside you resulting in you at a higher risk of getting pregnant? What if you are exposed to STIs? Honey, you are young and you should think about sex carefully before engaging. Give yourself some time to understand more about sexual relations. I understand that in our society many young people are engaging in sexual behaviours but honey, being in a relationship does not require you to have sex - especially at such a tender age.Love your self and cherish your body. I wish you all the best.
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reader, hands_down317 +, writes (6 April 2009):
 Okay well 1) you're 13... you're a child. You probably think you know everything, you don't. Sex changes everything and I wouldn't recomend having it so young. But if you're going to have sex anyways I'll tell you straight up. You may not bleed, some girls don't. And if you do, your boyfriend shouldn't be turned off by it. It's an intimate act and he should respect you. If he get's turned off by it, then he's a jerk.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (6 April 2009):
 Why do you want to have sex so young. There are other ways of expressing love. why don't you save your virginity for the special one. I don't mean to sound cold but what will boys think of you knowing that you have been having sex so early. The words easy ans slapper come to my mind.Kiss, cuddle, fondling but save the special bit. Learn to masturbate, this can relive those pend up feelings.You will thank me in the long run for being so honest.Be careful - pregnancies and girls as young as you do not carry them very well as the body is not fully developed.
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