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writes:im 13 years old and i know it sound stupid but im really broody. i really want a baby and its getting me down. im not going to have one till im older though, because thats the right thing to do. please help me?? is there anything i can do to make me feel better?
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reader, superfly  +, writes (11 June 2007):
You don't write like a thirteen year old, but the thought process seems at the level of mental retardation....I think 13 year olds, who have these kinds of perseptions have difficulty expressing themselves verbally as indicated here....I can't believe anyone responded with any advice here...
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Everyone else gave you great advice, I'm just throwing another little somethin-somethin into the mix.
I love babies, and I've always wanted one of my own. But, like you, I have always known that I would wait until I was much older and ready to support a family.
So, what I did was I got one of those big, plastic bins and I started to buy baby stuff. Clothes, toys, even diapers and bibs. I bought a journal and started writing little notes to my future born. ("Dear Baby, you are not born yet... but I can't wait until you are!! Now, I am thirteen. Someday you'll be thirteen, and here's some advice..." etc., etc.) I'm tellin gyou, it really helped to settle the urge.
Broodiness is so normal at thirteen. Ever heard of teenage angst? Well, that's where you are... or heading, at least. It's normal, just try to remember that it's all a part of growing up, and your hormones are going crazy inside of your body.
Try starting a baby box! And believe me, when you ACTUALLY have a baby... you'll be so thankful that you bought all that baby stuff. It'll come in handy!!
Good luck, sweetness. I feel your pain.
xxIndia
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (11 June 2007):
 It is ok to like children and aspire to have a family when you are older and financially secure to support them. However, there are quite enough very young teenagers on this website who have accidentally discovered they are pregnant and are having to live with the consequences to make you realise that it is not all roses in the garden. Perhaps you want to have children to compensate for something lacking in your own family life - lots of people from difficult backgrounds aspire to be good parents. Perhaps you are feeling depressed and you are thinking a baby would fill a void in your life or give you unconditional love you don't get elsewhere. Lots of young people go through depression and you can get help for it. If you want a wake up call then you should accept baby-sitting jobs and then you would get a realistic experience of what is involved in looking after infants - vomit, dirty nappies and crying as much as the good times!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): Hi!
Its perfectly normal to have these sorts of feelings, all of a sudden you are becoming a womand and your hormones are going crazy!
But having a baby is a bad idea, bcause, as already said, youre not actually emotionally or physically ready to be a full time mum.
Im guessing that you want to be wiht little kids and enjoy hanging out with them and taking care of them, if you want a baby... so why not babysit!! Its a great way to get that kind of responsibility and practice and time with kids, without having to give up your entire future, and witout putting your body at risk!
It will also help you decide if you really really want a baby, for a few years down the line when you are older.
This is what I did, and I know at your age, I couldnt wait to have a baby, and veryone said I was an awsome babysitter. But now Im 19 adn at uni studying for a carreer as a vet and im SO glad I didnt do anything lasting like actually ahve a baby.
I hope this helps a bit! If you want to chat, you can message me if you want!
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Hia babii, i am ther exact same to you!! apart from i started wanting a babe at 11 and i am now 16, still not a mother. you wont just grow out of it but u need to learn to put it to the back of ur head, concentrate on work and (im doin ma GCSEs atm) so u realy need to work 2 wards um.. hope i helped, mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, *shugar* *and* *spice* +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Hi, im 13 to and i would like to have a baby to "i mean who wouldent ther so cute" well any ways i know i have to wait to because i dont want a baby right now i think its worth the wait "i mean i want to have fun while i still can" I think if you get a pet and treat it as a baby you'll be fine "well it helped me anyway i treat my dog like its my baby i feed it, walk it, dress it, buy it things and everthing".
Hope i helped!!!!!!
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reader, kellyO +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Hi dear,
I had a friend that got pregnant at 14 while we were in early high school. Believe me it wasnt a piece of cake. I know u have probably heard this a thousand times already but some things are worth waiting for. At 13 your body is not ready yet to carry a child and they are certain health risk involved. Not every one gets lucky.
Concentrate on your studies for now and talk to someone older about how u feel. They will be able to assit by giving u more advise.
Take care now.
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reader, CharlieHorse +, writes (11 June 2007):
Why do you want a baby? How do you imagine motherhood? If you have a rosy vision of yourself surrounded by cherubic children, making cakes and going to the park, be assured that it is NOT like that 99.9% of the time.
Do you feel unloved by either your parents or your peers? Do you love yourself enough? Sometimes women want babies because they want something/someone to love them, and someone to love unconditionally.
Have a long, hard think about what you imagine motherhood to be like. Think about how you imagine it would make you feel. By being honest about your motives for wanting a baby you may be able to identify what is causing your broodiness, and perhaps put things right without getting pregnant.
The thing is honey, you have to ask yourself NOT "What would a baby offer me?" but "What could I offer a baby?". As a thirteen year old, the answer is clear.
When you are much older then you are going to be in a position to offer much much more.
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reader, jaxwardle86 +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Your a hormonal teenager these kind of feelings are bound to occur. Your not stupid. but unfortunately you can not make these feelings disappear its yet another one of the many joys of being a female. However I do urge you not to act on impulse
I'm a mum of 2 and had my first child at 17 believe me it's the hardest thing to do. If you have any people that you know who have become young mothers I suggest you try talking to them they will tell you just how hard it is tc Jax xxxxxxx
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