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writes:How will you ever discover how to make a guy fall in love with you? What things attract a guy and keep him interested? Do you have the information to reach a guy's heart? Men are perplexing and most women just don't understand them. Here are some failsafe ways that you can use to make a guy fall in love with you.What men think usually is love is in all probability just physical attraction. Of course, they are not aware of this and they don't realize that it will wear off as soon as they get to know the woman. It isn't until much later on that they understand that love is a vastly different thing and that what they have is not love. Men have a moderately easy time of getting a woman to fall in love with him but it is pretty difficult to make a guy fall in love with you.It would be much easier for women if love and lust were the same thing. You would simply need to dress sexily, tease him a little and, voila, he would be in love. Of course, it's not that simple. To get to a man's heart you don't need just a short skirt and a rocking body - you need that gorgeous feminine power that'll have him dropping everything to be by your side.Basically, you want to be the woman that has the key to open up his feelings and make him feel that everything is okay. Activating the right feelings in him will make him crazy for you. If you're not one of the (ridiculously lucky) minority that naturally makes men wild, you will have to hold some enchantment that draws him in. You should try to be there for him, encourage him in his interests and hobbies, and talk to him about his job. Be with him for his successes and when he's happy and he will attach these good feeling with you.To make a guy fall in love with you, you will have to go at his pace-and this might be slow. Occasionally you have already fallen head over heels in love but you just can't expect him to be at the same stage. He could very well be still in the 'getting to know you' phase and trying to sort out his feelings for you. You will just have to join him there for a while. Sit back and take pleasure in the relationship until he is ready for the next level.How guys fall in love is very different than how women fall in love. It's been said by many men that they fall in love when they're not with a woman, whereas women fall in love when they're with a man. It's a bit confusing but what it really means is that if you give a man a chance to miss you, he's more likely to fall in love with you. Men love a good chase so they are much more inclined to fall madly in love with a woman who plays a bit hard to get and isn't always available as opposed to a woman who proclaims her undying love soon after the first date.Men are crazy about women who have a fun sense of humor. If you can make a man laugh you've already discovered one of the secrets of how guys fall in love Men want to be with women who can find real joy in life and who aren't afraid to laugh and make others laugh. Keep things lighthearted when you're out with a guy and keep the dramatics to a minimum. He'll feel more drawn to you.Another thing is - don't be too nice! He doesn't want some simpering barbie on his arm! (unless that's what he does want, in which case...get rid of him ;P) Most men like the look of a confident, grounded girl who doesn't cater to his every whim, but instead takes time to let him know that its a 50 50 relationship where no-one is the boss. Just because you are slowing yourself down for him doesn't mean that he is in control of the relationship, but it doesn't mean you are either.Finally - and yes, I know it's cheesy - BE YOURSELF. If you act like a different girl around a guy, or you aren't showing what you're really like, then it isn't you that he's falling in love with. It's your personality inside that he needs to see and fall in love with, not some shiny plastic exterior.Good luck, girls! ThatsMyCookie :)P.S results may vary. ;) Reply to this Article
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reader, ThatsMyCookie +, writes (15 January 2011):
ThatsMyCookie is verified as being by the original poster of the question @diddycoyI do appreciate feedback, however you'll notice I put "you DON'T need a short skirt and a rocking body". Please quote from my article where you think I implied that a woman with "a wobbly body who wears trousers or long skirts wouldn't get a guy'. I would never say that, in fact I believe the opposite (as quoted above). There is nothing cheesy at all about being yourself, however I did not want readers to think that it was cheesy to put it in my article.Of course I have more to learn; so does every living thing on this planet. There is always another thing to know.I agree that love comes naturally. My article was meant to be taken light-heartedly and with a pinch of salt. I am sure that there are more serious and intense articles out there that you might prefer to read, if you wish to give more constructive feedback.I completely agree; everyone is beautiful in one way; no matter what age, size or outward appearance.It's fine that you don't agree with parts, BUT you seem to have misread a large chunk of it and therefore misinterpreted it. Perhaps read more carefully next time. :)Thankyou for sharing your thoughts and comments. It's always refreshing to hear what another person thinks and their take on what others believe.I'd just like to take the opportunity to remind readers that this article is purely a bit of fun and nothing too serious. :)
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reader, ThatsMyCookie +, writes (15 January 2011):
ThatsMyCookie is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondiddycoyI do appreciate feedback, however you'll notice I put "you DON'T need a short skirt and a rocking body". Please quote from my article where you think I implied that a woman with "a wobbly body who wears trousers or long skirts wouldn't get a guy'. I would never say that, in fact I believe the opposite (as quoted above). There is nothing cheesy at all about being yourself, however I did not want readers to think that it was cheesy to put it in my article.Of course I have more to learn; so does every living thing on this planet. There is always another thing to know.I agree that love comes naturally. My article was meant to be taken light-heartedly and with a pinch of salt. I am sure that there are more serious and intense articles out there that you might prefer to read, if you wish to give more constructive feedback.I completely agree; everyone is beautiful in one way; no matter what age, size or outward appearance.It's fine that you don't agree with parts, BUT you seem to have misread a large chunk of it and therefore misinterpreted it. Perhaps read more carefully next time. :)Thankyou for sharing your thoughts and comments. It's always refreshing to hear what another person thinks and their take on what others believe.I'd just like to take the opportunity to remind readers that this article is purely a bit of fun and nothing too serious. :)
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reader, diddycoy +, writes (14 January 2011):
i think men are easy folk to understand and us women confuse our self..an the bit about a rockin body an short skirt..is bull@@@@ what about the women with a wobbly body and trousers or long skirts are you saying they wont get a man to love them ? in my book most men when they,r looking for love an someone to take home dont go for short skirts and model types ..an whats cheesy about being yourself ?..you wrote your artical good but your age show,s , i have a good 16 yrs on you so i think you got a bit more to learn yet..some of your ideas are on the right track but i think if you have to play games to make a man fall in love with he wont stay in love with you,,it has to come naturaly and un- forced. an when we,r all old and wrinkled the body will be gone but hopefully the love will still be around..i enjoyed reading it,sorry that i dissagree,as for making yourself un- available can sometimes make the mind forget or make you think your not wanted enough if the other person cant make the effort..i think if you play games with someone,s feeling you get played back..so just go with the flow and dont try an force love good luck xxx
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reader, Angela Switzer  +, writes (9 January 2011):
I like the article you posted. I told this man I used to be with that I would wait for him even if it takes a year or so. I love him with all my heart and soul and Im being honest with him about who I am today. I know he is busy raising his child on his own which is difficult because I was a single parent myself. But to the point again..Im being myself and not letting others tell me that I need to wear a skirt etc to impress a man. I am me and if no one likes that then thats their problem not mine. So, I do understand that men arent horrible as people say they are because who is to judge when they dont know you in the first place. Im just enjoying life; being me.
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reader, ThatsMyCookie +, writes (8 January 2011):
ThatsMyCookie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou all for your lovely comments :)
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reader, LostInMyself +, writes (6 January 2011):
 So true!! =) My current BF actually stated that. "Please don't EVER , ever change to please me, I love that most about you, that you are yourself and that you state your opinions and get feisty when needed.Dont change okay?" At first I did not understood his comment... but I realized that he likes the fact that I'm there to support him when needed , but I am also there to stand my ground and share my opinions when necessary as well.
I loved this article :)) Thank u for writing it!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 "For someone so young, you give very practical advice and it works for both sexes too!"
Agree 100%.
Except for the bit about men being perplexing... If you were a man for one week, you'd realize that we're incredibly simple folk.
Take that to the bank.
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reader, cat lady +, writes (2 January 2011):
 For someone so young, you give very practical advice and it works for both sexes too! One finds all the characteristics you've described in both sexes so it is as well simply to expect whatever you get from either. There's nothing 'cheesy' about reminding people to be themselves: it remains the most difficult challenge for most people, of all ages, when they're trying to attract someone special. I'd like to see you do an article about what kind of guy you'd like to bag and why.
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